"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The reasons why it is so difficult to date decent women

backbreaker

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Grinder,


just becuase you had that, and she self desctucted, does not mean that there was a problem with what you did.

There is nothing wrong with the stay at home wife the 2 kids and the picket fence.

the problem is that the particuar woman you had and her wanted different things out of life and you moved on.

Don't curse all women and the institute of marriage or even stay at home moms, beucase the one you shaked up with did not work out. That's aFC thinking.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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grinder

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backbreaker said:
Grinder,


just becuase you had that, and she self desctucted, does not mean that there was a problem with what you did.

There is nothing wrong with the stay at home wife the 2 kids and the picket fence.

the problem is that the particuar woman you had and her wanted different things out of life and you moved on.

Don't curse all women and the institute of marriage or even stay at home moms, beucase the one you shaked up with did not work out. That's aFC thinking.
I’ve actually had two marriages and 4 kids. I don’t regret one minute of any of it and I’m not condemning marriage or the stay-at-home mom.

I’ve actually suggested that, given our long lifespans, you jump in and experience it. It will probably end but that’s not the point. You are here to experience and learn.

Eventually you will learn it’s not the only ideal, just another external societal value you have internalized but are not aware you have. That’s the way with most things BTW.
 

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What do you think about this?
I think you're ****ing crazy. Honestly. PEOPLE don't go out of their way to say "I don't need the opposite sex." How many women have you met that are even remotely like that? DEFINITELY not a majority. The only people that think are THE PEOPLE ON THIS FORUM.
 
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