Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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The reason perhaps

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I've been seeing a girl for about 3 months now, chases her for like 6 before that. I've been wondering why exactly I like this girl as much as I do. Aside from my disposition for tall b*tches (she's 6'2") I didn't get why I liked her as much as I do. She's smart which is good. Hot, yes yes all good there too. What really ercks me is that she's such wise ass b*tch to just about everyone, me included sometimes.

I mean it's not a big deal in my eyes, but really NONE of my friends like here...well except for my room mate he wants to f*ck her but he'll f*ck anything with legs and a nice smile. Anyway everybody I know or talk to that has met this girl has the same reacton "oh!, you're talking about THAT b*tch" and how they tried to rag on her in the past or invited her out as a joke, something along those lines. She's been known to put people down from time to time so as you can imagine she doesn't really have the best reputation.

Anyway I think aside from the physical attraction, what i just stated above are the exact reason why I like her so much, which I think is kinda sad. I like the fact that none of my friends like her maybe because subconsiously I'm insecure about my friends hitting on my g/f's so i feel security in knowing that none of them like her. What's bad about that is that being a guy myself I know that we often say one thing but mean the exact opposite, but that aside it SEEMS none of them like her. I also like the fact that she's a b*tch too. She calls me on my bull sh*t which is something that very few if any girls I know will even attempt to do. It's not as big a problem with her because she'll always speak her mind and yeah i have to admit in certain areas her feild of knowledge eclipses mine by eons.

Still overall I think those are sorry reasons to base a realationship on. My friends won't date her and she's a b*tch can only lead down a path to destruction, yet here I am typing this post because I think about her all the time. I hope I can find the strength in myself to come to my senses and dump her before it's too late.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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i wish you all the best PRMoon

get another chick in your program to help you get your mind right

having a plan B will help

does this chick make you happy ?

f*<k what your friends think. ignore their $hit.

YOU call the shots


Lost In Translation :D

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**
 

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I talk to a lot of other girls Lost. I always thought that keeping my head in the game would keep me out of situations like this but apparently that's not the case. It's not a matter of getting another girl, that's easy but even though I hang out with, sometimes hook up with other girls, this one's always on my mind for some stupid reason.

I don't really care what my friends think about her, If I did I wouldn't of spent all that time chasing her. I'm just speculating that one of the reasons that I like her so much is that my friends don't like her.

Honestly I'm not sure if I'm every really "happy" per say with girls at this point. Drowning with hot girls offering this or that, and honestly she's not the best of them but for some reason i'm just so hooked on her sh*t and I don't know why but I do know the reason(s) i have is/are probably less the adequit.

I dunno I can barely put what i'm going through with this one into words, She's on my mind alot and i'm not sure if that's how I want things to be because she's got that rough exterior, but when I look into her eyes i see a scared little girl calling for help. BLEH I can't stand it! I'm on the brink of getting oneits! I need to up my clubbing routine! Wh*res are the final solution against it in my book:up:
 

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nooooo

I had a sick dream about her last night! She asked me if I loved her and I said yes! NOOOOOO!

well thank god it was just a dream, strange because usually my dreams are very bland and I don't even remember then when i wake up. I guess this one was more of a nightmare concidering how stand offish we are with one another when it comes to our feelings. She's definately not the type to admit anything (even less to drop the L bomb) without the guy coming clean first.

I don't like where this is going, i have to do something to turn the tide on this one. I think I have to stop calling her and awnsering her calls as a first step then, when she's good and mad at me, I'll flat out break up with her.

Funny I think that's the same way her ex boyfriend ended it with her too, i think I understand why but who can really cite his reasons.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by DJnoob
u must be trying to tame the beast
I guess you could put it that way, but i'm going about it all wrong. I'm getting too emotionally involved so it's becoming a pit fall for me as well. I'm sure I could progress and train her to be a good g/f but at the same time I don't want to lose myself in the process. Having dreams about her means I'm losing my ambivilence which is what really gives me perspective when it comes to women.
 

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at least ur not like me. I fall inlove with woman easily.. =) Super AFC right here. which is pretty sad.. i dont even have any girl friends..as in just friends. I must scare them away or something. Its weird.

Have you made any moves on this chick yet or shown sign of interest?
 

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I actually go out with this girl. We've hooked up a bunch, i've had sex with her 4 times (kinda sad really i've been around her for almost a year now) she's my g/f for all intesive purposes or at least the closets thing I can have to one because i'm almost in capeable of having a serious relationship because for several reasons. I'm fighting against a slippery slope of developing feelings for her so I limit the amount of contact we have which is severely dampered by the fact that I work 7 days a week anyway.

Soon she's headed off to study in London so I'm thinking she'll hook it up with someone over there and forget about me all together. That would be the ideal situation but if we'll see how it goes before then. If she pulls that "I'll miss you" "Can't wait to see you again" BS then I'll probably just man up and break up with her and it'll be easy for her to move on with her life over seas.
 
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