"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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The reality of Don Juan and the relationship

BobFuest

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I think a lot of times people take being a Don Juan to an extreme or to prove a point and that confuses quite a few people around here. I feel while a lot of this can be BS or too extreme the main points always stay the same.

1. Be happy and fun. Confident and happy = sexy. Misery = icky

2. Do make them feel insecure everyonce in awhile. make them feel like girls but dont try to control them. my favorite example is; "Honey, your not going to wear THAT are you?"

3. Be yourself. As much as you want someone you cant be fake if you want to keep them. Be yourself and always be a man about it.

4. Never get emotional. whether jealous or angry, dont get all emotional about it. Walk away, relax, think logically then talk to your partner about it. yelling or getting upset do not make things better and only make you look like a cry baby.

5. dont be an extreme idiot. While standing up and being a man is good it can also make you look like a moron and a fool. Choose your battles and realize that sometimes you do have to compromise because that makes relationships work.

6. last but not least, dont keep it routine. Mix it up. change the days you hangout. change the activities. dont call so often. be busy. call her and tell her your coming to get her now, throw her in the car, and wisk her off to a nice resturant or midnight putt putt. whatever. just make your lives interesting.

Now, this is based on things i have tried in the field as well as my current 8 month LTR. Things have been up and down with her but she is still here and we have a very deep connection. She is at least HB8 (if not 9) and everything i have ever wanted in a woman. Its not to say a lot of the other "rules" dont work but i notice ALOT of control issues and i am here to warn others that you dont need to control a girl or trick her to make her yours. Being a nice guys does work if your still a man about it.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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newbie81

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Originally posted by BobFuest
I think a lot of times people take being a Don Juan to an extreme or to prove a point and that confuses quite a few people around here. I feel while a lot of this can be BS or too extreme the main points always stay the same.

1. Be happy and fun. Confident and happy = sexy. Misery = icky

2. Do make them feel insecure everyonce in awhile. make them feel like girls but dont try to control them. my favorite example is; "Honey, your not going to wear THAT are you?"

3. Be yourself. As much as you want someone you cant be fake if you want to keep them. Be yourself and always be a man about it.

4. Never get emotional. whether jealous or angry, dont get all emotional about it. Walk away, relax, think logically then talk to your partner about it. yelling or getting upset do not make things better and only make you look like a cry baby.

5. dont be an extreme idiot. While standing up and being a man is good it can also make you look like a moron and a fool. Choose your battles and realize that sometimes you do have to compromise because that makes relationships work.

6. last but not least, dont keep it routine. Mix it up. change the days you hangout. change the activities. dont call so often. be busy. call her and tell her your coming to get her now, throw her in the car, and wisk her off to a nice resturant or midnight putt putt. whatever. just make your lives interesting.

Now, this is based on things i have tried in the field as well as my current 8 month LTR. Things have been up and down with her but she is still here and we have a very deep connection. She is at least HB8 (if not 9) and everything i have ever wanted in a woman. Its not to say a lot of the other "rules" dont work but i notice ALOT of control issues and i am here to warn others that you dont need to control a girl or trick her to make her yours. Being a nice guys does work if your still a man about it.
You need to control the relationship 90% of the time, but you don't need to control the girl.

Don't forbid her to do things, tell her what you think about it.

Don't like her drinking? Tell her, bring her to reason, but don't forbid, this works against you.

Control the relationship, don't control her, she's not a dog.

peace.
 

Guitar_Whizz

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Originally posted by BobFuest

3. Be yourself. As much as you want someone you cant be fake if you want to keep them. Be yourself and always be a man about it.

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Don't just 'be yourself'. Be your BEST self. Put your best foot forward, let your unique qualities, talents and individuality shine.
 
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