"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The real reason you can't get a date...

Alicorn

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I figgured out the real reason I'm having dating problems, it's very simple really: most people are a bunch of ****ing liars.

I'm reading a book right now called "Freakonomics: a rogue economist explores the hidden side of everything," and there is a few pages on dating websites. While these numbers I'm about to throw at you are probablly different than in real life, it's doubtful they are that much different than what the self-diluted masses actually believe.

- 57% of the users were men, and the median age range for all users was 26 to 35

- 4% of daters claimed to earn more than $200k a year, whereas fewer than 1% of typical Internet users actually earn that much

- men's report of their weight fell in line with national averages, but women typically reported they were 20lbs less than the national average

- 70% of women claimed "above average" looks, including 24% claiming "very good looks"

- the online men were almost as gorgeous at 67% "above average" and 21% "very good looking"
So, either normal people are a bunch of liars or they are employed as real-estate agents (I vote for liars).

Real-estate agents know that the typical house isn't "charming" or "fantastic," but unless you say it is, no one will even bother to take a look.

So if everyone is expecting everyone else to lie, and I don't lie then the unwashed masses will assume I am worse off then I am. Maybe I should just put "king of the fookin' world" as my job to balance things out.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Originally posted by Alicorn
I figgured out the real reason I'm having dating problems, it's very simple really: most people are a bunch of ****ing liars.

I'm reading a book right now called "Freakonomics: a rogue economist explores the hidden side of everything," and there is a few pages on dating websites. While these numbers I'm about to throw at you are probablly different than in real life, it's doubtful they are that much different than what the self-diluted masses actually believe.



So, either normal people are a bunch of liars or they are employed as real-estate agents (I vote for liars).

Real-estate agents know that the typical house isn't "charming" or "fantastic," but unless you say it is, no one will even bother to take a look.

So if everyone is expecting everyone else to lie, and I don't lie then the unwashed masses will assume I am worse off then I am. Maybe I should just put "king of the fookin' world" as my job to balance things out.
Errr why use dating websites?
 

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Re: Re: The real reason you can't get a date...

Originally posted by BackToTheMack
Errr why use dating websites?
What an amazing way to miss the point.

Those stats were used because you can't search a person for their "user profile" in real life.

If people are lying like that online, they will probably lie in a similar way IRL.
 

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Re: Re: Re: The real reason you can't get a date...

Originally posted by Alicorn
What an amazing way to miss the point.

Those stats were used because you can't search a person for their "user profile" in real life.

If people are lying like that online, they will probably lie in a similar way IRL.
Consider the source women that sign up to dating websites are generally not attractive, have poor social skills, have a poor social life and are very insecure. So of course you will get girls lying about there looks a weight.

In the real world if you have the balls to approach an attractive girl what are the odds that she will have poor social skills and be insecure like the girls on dating websites? And if she is why would you pursue her? That’s right you wouldn’t because she hasn’t got an attractive personality.

The girls that go on dating websites aren’t the girls you meet at clubs or when you cold approach. They are the insecure girls that sit at home all day waiting for Mr Right.

Oh and women lie to make them selves more sought after wow I am truly astounded you are a revolutionary. Women lie thank you for that bit of information I have been living under a rock for 20 years and I did not know this and men lie to OMG I am truly shocked.

Oh and finally WHAT THE F*CK does this have to do with approaching women in the real world. Women see right through lies and it’s not the liar that gets the women it’s the MAN and who is the man? The man is the guy with balls, charm, charisma the funny guy that makes her laugh but his serious when need be. The guy who makes her feel good about herself but dominates her. NOT the guy that lies to make him self look cool the guy who actually is "cool" and who doesn’t have to use words to show his coolness. Plus women see right through lies and on top of all that women don’t like braggers.

So your theory is usless.
 
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