The Real Reason You Are Here

[Survivor]

You are not here for sex. No one here is. I'm convinced of that. You may think you're here to find out how to fvck more chicks but you're really not.

If all you wanted was simply sex, you would not have seeked this site out. Sex from beautiful women is actually quite easy to acquire. There's prostitution, strip clubs, pornography, masturbation, etc... If you want sex with beautiful women you don't need this site to get it. So why are you really here?

Technically, sex with a woman is the same as sex with your hand. In both cases your reproductive organs are stimulated and upon orgasm you ejaculate. So I ask again, why are you really here?

You are not here for an LTR either, so quit lying to yourself. If you want an LTR with a beautiful girl, all you have to do is be friends with her. LTRs don't have to be sexual. How hard is it to be a woman's long-term friend?

So it's too demeaing to pay for sex and its torture to be platonic friends with a woman you are attracted to, and in frustration you've come here. Yet you insist that you want sex and LTRs.

What does sex and sexual LTRs provide that the alternative don't? I'll tell you. DESIRABLITY.

You here because you want to FEEL desired and wanted. This is natural and has almost nothing at all to do with sex.

Here's a lesson I had to learn the hard way. There needs to be something in your life other than women and sex that feeds your ego. It could be music, sports, career, business, whatever. The ability to attract a mate is something that every creature on this earth posesses, so don't make it more of an issue than it needs to be.

By all means mack on, but still have things and people in your life that VALUE you. Become desirable. Learn how to look good. Learn how to like what you see in the mirror. Learn how to talk. Learn how to manage yourself and your emotions. Become a complete person and value all aspects of your life. Do these things and you will grow to not need the approval of any
other human being to validate your existence.

You will feel desired. You will feel wanted.

For that is your true goal. It is the real reason you are here.

Later men,

Survivor

PS: Respond to the poll. What small thing can you do for yourself to FEEL more desirable (that has nothing to do with women or sex)?

 

[FollowTheWhiteRabbit]

Im working on getting rid of the littel bit of fat on my body that ruins my shape and has plagued me for years, I want it gone, it bothers me, so im making it go away.

 

[Broham]

Great wake-up post. I think alot of guys on here don't have complete lives so they resort to putting all their energy into this sh*t when many other facets of life can give them the same, if not more satisfaction of feeling powerful and important. I'm no exception.

 

[whistler]

You here because you want to FEEL desired and wanted. This is natural and has almost nothing at all to do with sex.

Here's a lesson I had to learn the hard way. There needs to be something in your life other than women and sex that feeds your ego. It could be music, sports, career, business, whatever. The ability to attract a mate is something that every creature on this earth posesses, so don't make it more of an issue than it needs to be.

By all means mack on, but still have things and people in your life that VALUE you. Become desirable. Learn how to look good. Learn how to like what you see in the mirror. Learn how to talk. Learn how to manage yourself and your emotions. Become a complete person and value all aspects of your life. Do these things and you will grow to not need the approval of any
other human being to validate your existence.

You will feel desired. You will feel wanted.

Incredibly insightful man.

 

[cinephile]

I concur

Yes, this what it is all about. Everything else is just fringe benefits. It is about developing that magnetic power that makes you the center of everything.

 

[jago25_98]

thanks,
I'm getting up to hit the library, gym, then swimming

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

We know that alone we are nothing and can not survive. Some animals are solitary and live alone, but humans are pack animals. We need other people, and deep down we built with that urge to socialise so we are not alone. I is ingrained in to us so much so that if we do not satisfy it with socialising it can drive us crazy.

Simple as that, we just are built in with a want to socialise ot get accepted so that we can be part of a group as we can not surive as solitary animals.

We wnat to get laid instead of using a prosititue because of the principal of it, that we cna actuly get a women for who we are ratehr thne our money and to impress others that we can do so as getting laid by a prostitue will make your freinds laugh at you.

The reason we want a relationship is again built in to us, we want to pass on our genes we can only do so through our children and we get in to a relationship because subconsiously we want to so we can have children and or for the above reason of people not being solitary animals, we do not live with another guy becayse it is not socialy acceptable above a certain age and again because deep down out natrual instincts tell us to.

We do not know why we want girls because its not liek why do you want a car, it is out sub consious built in urges that drive us towards doing so.

 

[Layla]

Great Post!

I'm actually doing a lot of volunteer work this summer. :woo:

 

[jago25_98]

Reconsidering this post.

I expect many here know that to lead a rich and successful life leads to women (wealth, health, happiness, furfillment).

But they look for shortcuts to women because a few tricks with women are a lot easier than transforming your whole life.


As an example I am happy in my life apart from my career.
I can't see a way to satisfy both ego and happiness. The boardroom or the cresh.

 

[Visceral]

I came here with the typical delusion that knowledge would solve all my problems.

I didn't know how to socialize and be sexual, and so I didn't out of fear that I would get it wrong and look bad to others and feel bad about myself.

I thought that if I were armed with knowledge, fear would disappear and action would become effortless.

I could not have been more wrong.

I've stayed not to learn techniques, but to learn masculinity, that perfect combination of inexhaustible passion, ambition, drive, and appetite for life.

I may be falling into the same trap, but I believe that "The Key is Masculinity"; once I've got that, everything else should just become a matter of time and effort.

 

[Rad]

Very insightful post..and I do need to hit the gym and just sweat more in general haha.

 

[Jaun_Don]

The reason I'm here is for good advice and to get back on top in the dating game, I have had a lot of long term relationships and I have had a lot of ****ed up dates and flings, I don't want that anymore, I also want to be the best man i can be for ME and I want to learn about attention seeking Women and flakes so I can avoid them and want to know why a Woman says one thing, but her body language says another.

I really appreciate all the comments, feedback and views from all of you and this is the best forum of this kind I have ever been too, I suspect that I will end up a NON game player and someone lovely that likes me for me and NOT attention, I also hope that this ***** that I live with wakes up and realizes that by her staying living with me(not as a couple) is not fair and is kind of selfish.

 

[Jay-X]

This is a very good post

 

[djbr]

Survivor, you're one of the posters that I respect the most around here.

And I want to thank your for posting this, because this couldn't have come in a better time than now.

Feel desired, feel loved is the core of self-esteem. For me it is. This is deeper than "oh, all girls want my dyck!". It's respect. Honor. Something I really want, and I guess all men want that too. We want the best woman we can find, we don't want to be played, we want to be respected, and have a person who recognizes our value.

Sometimes we get distracted on that "girls" routine and miss the big picture.

I'm not saying people should depend on others for defining who you are. I'm saying you have to like what you are to others to like you. A huge difference if you think about it.

That's what I think Survivor is trying to point out.

Well... great post, as usual. Respect.