In nearly every conversation lately women ask me if I will ever get married. I always ask them one thing. What's in it for me? I can never get a satisfactory answer to why I should want to get married. The only thing I get is , You don't want to grow old alone do you? To which I say, I'm not alone right now, you're here. And they reply, "well I won't always be around blah blah blah"
. To which I reply, "someone else will. I've been alone before and I'll die alone. I'm not afraid of alone, so give me another reason."
They have nothing. I suspect they know there is no reason for a man to get married, there is no benefit for men other than having a stable home to raise children but they can't even bring themselves to raise that point. It defeats the "Imma strong black woman who don't need no baby daddy" narrative. I usually end up with blank stares and the sound of hamsters furiously whirring. I find it quite enjoyable to pose that question.
Then I hit them with the next one. What do you bring to the table? They go in about their jobs and careers. I usually tell them as an adult they are supposed to have a job and a career, that doesn't count. What else you got? Can you cook, can you clean, can you take care of children? Do you like to have regular sex? Because I can cook and clean and take care of children. I do that now.
Then the indignation arises. "I'm not a hore".
No dear, you aren't. But you still haven't give me one reason to get married yet.
If just one of them said, I can help you achieve your dreams. That would be acceptable, but not once have they said that.
The problem is, they have never thought about why a man wants to get married other than keeping them around because they are so awesome. They have never thought about what makes them awesome in his mind. They haven't considered what he wants out of the deal. It's surprising that grown women in their late 20's and 30's can't figure this stuff out. Then again, I guess it's not because they are single.
I usually use this conversation to end things with a chick. It's a sure fire bridge burner that will dry a vag right up. Of course you know women will talk so be prepared for the social fallout. I've had girls come back and tell me they heard that I never want to get married, so I know they talk. I tell them I want a son one day and will marry for that reason only. If they don't bear me a son I will probably Henry VIII that ass. :box: :kick:
. To which I reply, "someone else will. I've been alone before and I'll die alone. I'm not afraid of alone, so give me another reason."
They have nothing. I suspect they know there is no reason for a man to get married, there is no benefit for men other than having a stable home to raise children but they can't even bring themselves to raise that point. It defeats the "Imma strong black woman who don't need no baby daddy" narrative. I usually end up with blank stares and the sound of hamsters furiously whirring. I find it quite enjoyable to pose that question.
Then I hit them with the next one. What do you bring to the table? They go in about their jobs and careers. I usually tell them as an adult they are supposed to have a job and a career, that doesn't count. What else you got? Can you cook, can you clean, can you take care of children? Do you like to have regular sex? Because I can cook and clean and take care of children. I do that now.
Then the indignation arises. "I'm not a hore".
No dear, you aren't. But you still haven't give me one reason to get married yet.
If just one of them said, I can help you achieve your dreams. That would be acceptable, but not once have they said that.
The problem is, they have never thought about why a man wants to get married other than keeping them around because they are so awesome. They have never thought about what makes them awesome in his mind. They haven't considered what he wants out of the deal. It's surprising that grown women in their late 20's and 30's can't figure this stuff out. Then again, I guess it's not because they are single.
I usually use this conversation to end things with a chick. It's a sure fire bridge burner that will dry a vag right up. Of course you know women will talk so be prepared for the social fallout. I've had girls come back and tell me they heard that I never want to get married, so I know they talk. I tell them I want a son one day and will marry for that reason only. If they don't bear me a son I will probably Henry VIII that ass. :box: :kick:
