"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The Problem With Some Self Help Gurus

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Is that they have no real hobbies or interests, they tell you to give up on things like video games and just work or read all the time. We are not robots built to work 24/7. There is nothing wrong with relaxing with some video games for an hour.

People need hobbies and interests, another thing i notice is that some say to stop focusing on women and focus on your purpose. What will happen is you will get rich and successful but have almost no skills with women.

The only women that care about money are gold diggers and 35+ year olds hitting the wall.

What we need is a balance, going from one extreme to the next is not healthy.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Hobbies are overrated in my opinion. I can only go hiking so many times in a row before I become bored with it. I don’t like doing the same crap ALL the time which is why when women ask me what my hobbies are, I draw a blank. Sometimes I want to sit on my ass. Sometimes I want to play Xbox. Sometimes I want to watch a marathon of a show that’s on I like. Sometimes I like doing yard work. I don’t have hobbies where I’m doing something every single week without fail, like company softball or playing tag football with some dudes in the park like a weirdo. I’m just me, I do what I want when I want, I don’t have a set schedule.
 

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People without hobbies are huge losers. Can't stand being around that kind of person at all. Neither of my parents have hobbies, they exist solely to travel, watch TV and get drunk.

Hobbies make a person interesting and they allow you to connect with other people easily. Any self help guru who poo poos free time is just a bvllsh1t artist. I once met this dude on a train who was all about this girl he was dating. He kept wanting to hang around me, and I don't know why, because he hated video games and thought I was wasting my time playing them. He was the most boring dude around, he would just show up at my apartment all the time with absolutely nothing to do or say. He thought video games were a waste of time because his GF told him they were and that he wasn't ALLOWED to play them.

The crazy South African guys I knew in Brazil, who were into the underworld, banging hot chicks left and right, doing coke and running to ESL classes on the backs on Ninjas also had loads of Magic Cards and spent time gaming in Unreal Tournament, infact that's how I got the job with them. People who tell you games are a waste of time, are themselves a waste of life.

Everybody I know who plays League, save for 1 guy is married to a hot chick. My boss used to pay me to play League with him in China. One day I went in, he cancelled all my classes and said he would pay if I just sat and played with him morning till night. Did that for 3 and a half months straight every night. My wife just added that her brother met his wife on a Chinese version of Dance Dance Revolution [Audition Dance Battle Online] and they continued dating in some RPG, she was smoking hot. My wife and I spent 2 months during the pandemic playing through Stardew Valley until we figured out there was no end. We also played through Don't Starve, Final Fight, Puzzle Fighter, Bust A Move [Puzzle Bobble] and Overcooked. If you like games, choose girls who also like games. Nerd girls are only fat and ugly in the West.


My wife was a huge fan of anime and liked getting dressed up in this stuff. I swear she's watched every anime ever made. If you like the chicks at cons, go hang out there. They don't have anyone to pick them up. The ones in Asia are like shooting fish in a barrel.

 
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The problem with most self help gurus, especially if they've made a name for themselves is that all their experience with success is centered around being a self help guru. They'll teach you how to be a self help guru, because that's all they know how to do. It's their only hobby, interest, work, lifestyle and everything.

It's like they're autistic and can only care about doing this one single thing. Whatever floats their boat...
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Is that they have no real hobbies or interests, they tell you to give up on things like video games and just work or read all the time. We are not robots built to work 24/7. There is nothing wrong with relaxing with some video games for an hour.

People need hobbies and interests, another thing i notice is that some say to stop focusing on women and focus on your purpose. What will happen is you will get rich and successful but have almost no skills with women.

The only women that care about money are gold diggers and 35+ year olds hitting the wall.

What we need is a balance, going from one extreme to the next is not healthy.
Totally agree. An alpha is a man that does what HE wants
 

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If anyone wants to play TheForest in Co-op, after the spider things started invading the island, I noticed I was having panic attacks. Would appreciate someone to play with. [I play in VR]
 

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Is that they have no real hobbies or interests, they tell you to give up on things like video games and just work or read all the time. We are not robots built to work 24/7. There is nothing wrong with relaxing with some video games for an hour.

People need hobbies and interests, another thing i notice is that some say to stop focusing on women and focus on your purpose. What will happen is you will get rich and successful but have almost no skills with women.

The only women that care about money are gold diggers and 35+ year olds hitting the wall.

What we need is a balance, going from one extreme to the next is not healthy.
It's all a racket, like anything else. There's no real secret to any of it. The racket is trying to sell people on an easier way to get to their purpose.
 

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Is that they have no real hobbies or interests, they tell you to give up on things like video games and just work or read all the time. We are not robots built to work 24/7. There is nothing wrong with relaxing with some video games for an hour.

People need hobbies and interests, another thing i notice is that some say to stop focusing on women and focus on your purpose. What will happen is you will get rich and successful but have almost no skills with women.

The only women that care about money are gold diggers and 35+ year olds hitting the wall.

What we need is a balance, going from one extreme to the next is not healthy.
They sell on their ideas a fantasy about some idealization... And humans love fantasy.

A guy who only study, work is like a perfect human... Is like God. Being like that give us some sense of power. That is basically what those guys do.

Agree with you that we are not robots, playing video games or dating girls will not kill us or make us inferior than anyone.

But hey, they are gurus, they have to sell that image of a wise and perfect guy.

This seems a great path to became mentally obsessive and sick.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hobbies are overrated in my opinion. I can only go hiking so many times in a row before I become bored with it. I don’t like doing the same crap ALL the time which is why when women ask me what my hobbies are, I draw a blank. Sometimes I want to sit on my ass. Sometimes I want to play Xbox. Sometimes I want to watch a marathon of a show that’s on I like. Sometimes I like doing yard work. I don’t have hobbies where I’m doing something every single week without fail, like company softball or playing tag football with some dudes in the park like a weirdo. I’m just me, I do what I want when I want, I don’t have a set schedule.
Honestly it just sounds to me like you haven't found something you actually enjoy, the way you talk about it is as if its a job.


Everybody I know who plays League, save for 1 guy is married to a hot chick. My boss used to pay me to play League with him in China. One day I went in, he cancelled all my classes and said he would pay if I just sat and played with him morning till night. Did that for 3 and a half months straight every night.
I'm not surprised, it really is hard to find someone you know irl that plays the same games. In highschool there was an Asian guy who would pay people to play World of Warcraft with him and join his guild. Most of my friends just play Cod or Fifa which is not what I'm into.


The problem with most self help gurus, especially if they've made a name for themselves is that all their experience with success is centered around being a self help guru. They'll teach you how to be a self help guru, because that's all they know how to do. It's their only hobby, interest, work, lifestyle and everything.

It's like they're autistic and can only care about doing this one single thing. Whatever floats their boat...
Exactly, i even saw one guy saying to give up the internet,smartphones and social media. Which is ironic since he uses social media for his brand, and the internet to post his videos. Getting rid of these stuff won't magically make you more productive.
 

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Exactly, i even saw one guy saying to give up the internet,smartphones and social media. Which is ironic since he uses social media for his brand, and the internet to post his videos. Getting rid of these stuff won't magically make you more productive.
Haha, what a hypocrite. There's nothing wrong with those things other than how someone might handle it. It can be positive just as much as it can be negative, it should just be used with caution and discipline, like everything else in life.
 

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Yeah, I don't have any hobbies really, I'm just always busy doing something I feel doing. I think a hobby is something that people do so they can feel they are doing something, I don't have time for that I'm too busy living my life.
This man has no VR.
 

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My opinion only!
Hobbies are ways of indulging in culture and once you indulge you can begin to network with your fellow hobbyists in creating your own cultural contributions.


Then someone will come along and add to the layers. [My wife's favorite song]

 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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