"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The Problem With Gimmicks

Wonderbread166

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One of the first things every person who comes across this site learns is that to impress girls, he needs to change himself. He reads and reads and reads and reads and learns line after line. He memorizes more techniques than he, or any other person for that matter, has ever needed or will ever need. These things that he learns are not natural, nor are they original, since they are straight from the mind of another person. This makes them nothing more than mere gimmicks, shallow and fake.

Now, try not to misinterpret what I am trying to tell you. You can get ***** using C+F, you can hit some ass using memorized scripts. But these things are SHALLOW and they will only work on SHALLOW GIRLS (Which do make up a large majority of the young female population). So gimmicks can get a girl to open her legs, but that is all. Try to pursue a close relationship with anyone, male or female, and they will see you for what you really are - fake, and very insecure. And a real woman will see through you right from the start.

The problem with gimmicks like these is that they will ultimately leave you empty. In addition, and maybe even more importantly, they are ridiculous and COMPLETELY unnecessary. You might not agree with me now, but if you have FAITH in your own abilities, girls will come so naturally, you’ll wonder what the big deal was about in the first place. Directness and simplicity, I’m finding, is the best way to go when dealing with girls, or anything in life, for that matter.

****y and Funny wasn’t meant to be a way for lonely guys who are desperate for attention to make people like them using cheesy lines. C+F is ‘a way of seeing things, like you’re the center of the world, and all you want is a hell of a good time.’ I implore you to explore your mind, your godlike abilities, your infinite potential. Don’t waste your time pretending when you can be anything you want to be. I can only hope that more of us will see the error in gimmicks.

Be real.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Yup, when I was a newbie I thought it was alla bout memorizing certain techniques and pumping them out systematically to get girls.

But ultimately you have to change your self, so that when you ARE "Being Yourself", getting girls becomes a byproduct.

Instead of tellin gyourself in your head, "don't get attached! don't get dependent!" you have to make it innate.

Instead of telling yourself in your head, "ok, right now, be C&F. say this, say that", your personality just becomes that.... it becomes ****y & funny, instead of a person saying ****y and funny things.
 

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Training wheels

Gimmicks are for beginners only. They are there help guide you along the process, not to be a substitute for it. After a while, of learning how to execute them well, a person should be able to abandom them and move on.
 

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I hear that. I know so many guys who aren't cool, but try to use ****y and funny, but it makes them even weirder. You don't get laid because you do or do not use ****y and funny or negs or whatever. You get laid because you are a cool guy, which is what new guys should work on becoming.

-Dan
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I used to try gimmicks a couple of years ago and they did feel very wierd, be yourself
 
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I know what you're saying and totally agree. What I suggest to you all is to develope unstoppable charisma, confidence and maybe a good-looking body. Charisma combined with confidence will get you girls falling in LOVE with you, not just feeling some "sexual attraction", good looking body gets you a lot better success when approaching. I know both from experience.
 

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Re: Training wheels

Originally posted by cinephile
Gimmicks are for beginners only. They are there help guide you along the process, not to be a substitute for it. After a while, of learning how to execute them well, a person should be able to abandom them and move on.
It's surprising how many people hold onto gimmicks in hopes of becoming a DJ. The forum is full of them.
 

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Originally posted by snintel
But ultimately you have to change your self, so that when you ARE "Being Yourself", getting girls becomes a byproduct.
Amen!
 

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Re: Training wheels

Originally posted by cinephile
Gimmicks are for beginners only. They are there help guide you along the process, not to be a substitute for it. After a while, of learning how to execute them well, a person should be able to abandom them and move on.
Exactly! It's like learning phrases in a foreign language when you don't understand the grammar or individual words. You can get by in the country, but not for long. However, the phrases will give you enough confidence to interact, and through this you will pick up other aspects of the language over time. Eventually you will be able to deconstruct the phrases into the components and make your own sentences that work for you. Or make entirely new phrases up. Only in this case it's not phrases, it's behavior and techniques.

Spot the guy who's learning Greek :)

These gimmicks are good if they give noobs the confidence to take the plunge and start interacting. I doubt anyone would truly rely on them forever once they have been experiencing a varying degree of success. They will learn the hard way that they will run out of material if they don't learn to freestyle.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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...or, sort of like training wheels when you first learn to ride your bike...then, when you're good enough to balance yourself (ie, become comfortable with yourself interacting with women), you take off the training wheels

still, on the journey there will be uphills (challenges), and downhills (when you get the payoff of having made it through a challenge or hill...and can glide down effortlessly...zoom)

...i won't take credit for the latter paragraph...i know someone wrote something along those lines in another tip; but the first paragraph would be another good analogy i thought up, for the original tip in this thread
 
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