"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The Problem With Cassidy Wolf

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For those unfamiliar with the story:

http://www.metro.us/newyork/news/national/2013/09/27/who-is-jared-james-abrahams-teen-accused-of-sextorting-miss-teen-usa/

First, I don't think he should have done this... that post is not an attempt to say he didn't do anything wrong here.

Here's what I have a problem with - what is it that brought this guy to the point to where he would stoop to this level of sexual extortion with multiple women? Why isn't anyone asking that question? Could it be because he was bullied while he was growing up? Maybe by pretty girls like Cassidy Wolf?

I remember the last time some high school kid killed themselves (and I think it was a girl) because of things people posted on Facebook, the state went after the posters blaming them for her death. Well, killing yourself is not the only negative consequence that can result from humiliating and cruel treatment. I am not too far removed from my high school experience to remember how terribly girls can treat guys... quite honestly, the way they treated me going through school (even all the way back in elementary school) is one of the biggest reasons I feel like I had problems with women.

This is obviously all conjecture, but if he was indeed bullied by females growing up, why doesn't that cause outrage? It can really mess up a young man to have girls pick on them and even, for lack of a better word, tease them sexually. Girls would tell me things like "no one would ever date you", "no one would ever want you", "no one would ever have sex with you", "you must be gay", all sorts of terrible things. When you destroy a young man's sense of value like that, of course he's probably going to do something stupid.

Now, I have never supported the notion of criminally prosecuting the bullies in these high profile bullying cases. At the end of the day, no matter how much someone pushes you, I believe you and you alone are responsible for your actions. I do not believe that saying something "mean" to someone or hurting their feelings should be against the law.

That being said, if this kid was bullied, we have a double standard on our hands. What people should do be doing is scrutinizing the life of Cassidy Wolf instead of praising her as a whistle blower. How many lives as she negatively effected by acting like beautiful and immature women tend to act?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I agree that young women have their own brand of cruelty. Especially to nerdy, uncool guys.

Unfortunately this will never be examined in this case because poor Cassidy is the victim.

That is pretty creepy though; I just put a piece of tape on my webcam!! lol
 

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not only that sam, the deal here is most he shows himself as a bad guy and media will go after the bad guy it won't matter if he was bullied or not (though his lawyer could do that for his defense), and of course the pretty sweeat little girl who is "so naive".

and really i'm the only one who think she is not that pretty?
 

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Boys can get bullied and mistreated BOTH by girls and other boys. No one cares, the school faculty don't care. Heck they sometimes even join in.

I think this kid has Aspergers/autism and if not bullied he was probably invisible and socially isolated.

But I agree with your point. Boys can be bullied, sexually and socially isolated and no one cares. But if a boy does something deemed socially inappropriate to a female, even something minor,it's made into a federal case.

The kid is young and a minor, probably autistic, so he should just get probation and be assigned to counseling. But I wouldn't be surprised if he gets some kind of incarceration and "sex offender" status.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Sounds like a typical IT computer nerd who hangs out on 4chan 24/7 and has the socialization skills to match.
 

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Though he was damn good at what he did, I'll give him that. Too bad he didn't use those skills for something other than terrorizing teenagers.
 

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Stagger Lee said:
Boys can get bullied and mistreated BOTH by girls and other boys. No one cares, the school faculty don't care. Heck they sometimes even join in.
Everyone depises weakness in males, even other men. It's not tolerated. Look at how the manosphere talks about AFCs and betas. Even a newbie here with maybe five posts despises AFCs and blames all the worlds ills on them. If you're not a high riding supercool alpha male then you're nothing but trash in other men's eyes, never mind the women.
 

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
yeah but this site is based around helping AFC men so even if there is some tough love that is not really the gist of what is going on.
That's true, but I wasn't talking about the guys who come here, hat in hand, looking for help. I was talking about how guys here view AFCs out in the real world. These guys are weak, but there is no sympathy for them. People despise weak men.
 
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