"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The Power of Silence

Biggie

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I'm trying this thing where I really don't talk much wherever I go. Even when I went to a restaurant the other day I wouldn't even tell the server my order, I just pointed to it on the menu. Also when i was drunk at the bars I didn't say a word. It's been really interesting to see people's responses to my silence. I'm almost always with a buddy and they tell everyone that I'm not really much of a talker. I may say one or two words to someone, but that's it, and only when it's something that needs to be said. It's kinda hard, but oddly enough I haven't really been getting negative reactions. For some reason people think it's interesting that I don't want to talk, and they try hard to get me to talk. There's pretty much no point in this thread, but I'm gonna pretty much keep like a journal about my experiences at the bars or whenever I go out and not talk. Dunno why I decided to do this, but whatever.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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JustLurk

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Biggie said:
For some reason people think it's interesting that I don't want to talk, and they try hard to get me to talk.
Yeah, same thing happens to me.
Biggie said:
when I went to a restaurant the other day I wouldn't even tell the server my order, I just pointed to it on the menu.
You want to be silent, that's fine, but this is probably crossing the line. You wouldn't want people to think you have a mental illness.
 

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JustLurk said:
Yeah, same thing happens to me.

You want to be silent, that's fine, but this is probably crossing the line. You wouldn't want people to think you have a mental illness.
Yeah i kinda thought the same thing, it was kinda weird not talking to the server. Also today I was at work but i still talked to my customers and stuff when asked a question. That would just be odd to ignore them.
 
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