The power of NC and sticking to it!

[SandHawk]

About 1.5 month ago I kicked a girl I was dating for nearly 5 months out of my house after I discovered she had lied about various things to me and immediately removed her from Facebook, deleted her digits and sh*tlisted her email address in my mail program.

The day after I flew to London, and 6 days later, I received 2 mails on my MSN mail account, which I promptly deleted without reading(thank you 3 second rule). Last week, I received a textmessage "Did I leave one of my pillstrips at yours? You'd really help me if you reply, and no, I'm not looking for contact. Thx". I deleted the text and never replied.

So, lo and behold, today I show up at the dancing school, where I know her from and where I speak to 3 of her friends and another spotted me. Over there one of her friends told me how much she misses me, to which I responded that by lying to me you end up in the depths of my mental hell, and there is no way out of there. Girl was shocked.

So I was driving at 1 in the morning from my parents home to my own place, and guess who tries to phone me up? Exactly, her.

I feel empowered by this. I am in control of my reality, pushed out of mine, and she never had someone cut her off like that, and she knows she wants me more than ever. The biggest revenge *IS* to live on in their heads, and I shall have a long and great revenge here.

Conclusion: Man the f*ck up when you want to call her / text her and tell her how much you miss her. Control your reality!

 

[jophil28]

About 1.5 month ago I kicked a girl I was dating for nearly 5 months out of my house after I discovered she had lied about various things to me and immediately removed her from Facebook, deleted her digits and sh*tlisted her email address in my mail program.

The day after I flew to London, and 6 days later, I received 2 mails on my MSN mail account, which I promptly deleted without reading(thank you 3 second rule). Last week, I received a textmessage "Did I leave one of my pillstrips at yours? You'd really help me if you reply, and no, I'm not looking for contact. Thx". I deleted the text and never replied.

So, lo and behold, today I show up at the dancing school, where I know her from and where I speak to 3 of her friends and another spotted me. Over there one of her friends told me how much she misses me, to which I responded that by lying to me you end up in the depths of my mental hell, and there is no way out of there. Girl was shocked.

So I was driving at 1 in the morning from my parents home to my own place, and guess who tries to phone me up? Exactly, her.

I feel empowered by this. I am in control of my reality, pushed out of mine, and she never had someone cut her off like that, and she knows she wants me more than ever. The biggest revenge *IS* to live on in their heads, and I shall have a long and great revenge here.

Conclusion: Man the f*ck up when you want to call her / text her and tell her how much you miss her. Control your reality!

Good job, son.
And extra kudos because you did not fall into the fool's fantasy of believing that you could use her as a FB.

Cut once and cut deep, eh ?

 

[Donnie Darko]

Well, you are doing great. Congrats.

I will say that I had a break from a girl that I was dating for a few months and I went completely no contact with her.

6 weeks later she sends me a message and straight up asks if we can have NSA sex as fvck buddies.

Things seem great for awhile and then 2 months into the fvck buddy relationship she pushes to start dating me again.

We tried dating and it didn't work. Now it is back to just being fvck buddies.

Part of me feels weak for continuing to fvck her and part of me just enjoys the sex.

 

[Paintballguy]

Well, you are doing great. Congrats.

I will say that I had a break from a girl that I was dating for a few months and I went completely no contact with her.

6 weeks later she sends me a message and straight up asks if we can have NSA sex as fvck buddies.

Things seem great for awhile and then 2 months into the fvck buddy relationship she pushes to start dating me again.

We tried dating and it didn't work. Now it is back to just being fvck buddies.

Part of me feels weak for continuing to fvck her and part of me just enjoys the sex.

If she's giving it up, might as well take it.

 

[SandHawk]

Good job, son.
And extra kudos because you did not fall into the fool's fantasy of believing that you could use her as a FB.

I know for sure I could bang her brains out if I put some effort into it, but that would only hurt my feelings, so why on earth would I want to damage myself? There is noone on this planet more important than me, I am the centre of the entire universe, noone will knock me from that location, ever, again.

Cut once and cut deep, eh ?

I don't do second chances, EVER. Once you blow it with me, you've proven you cannot be trusted. So yes, I cut only once, and I go deep. Second chances are a display of weakness. Once you know my boundaries, you know not to overstep them, esp. not the ones I attempt to base my life on.

 

[Wilko]

I'm a believer, NC has served me well. Let me ask you though, before you went NC and deleted all her contact details did you get your licks in first, or did you just quietly and calmy disappear from her life?

I ask because I've noticed that when I get in a girl's face and confront her about her flakiness or lies before going NC it spikes her IL much higher than going about it the strong, silent way before I disappear.

Now, the stoic route is "manlier" and probably healthier in the end and if you're really going textbook NC it doesn't matter what her IL is doing after the fact, I get that. But, I still want to know what's going on in their heads.

Anybody else want to shed some light on this? I'm really almost talking about pre-NC game, that very last bit of communication - you won't see me again and here's why. I think the paricular tone you choose and the message you send has a profound effect on the girl post NC.

 

[SandHawk]

This particular case was different that most of my other NC plates. This plate had seen me in the paste decimate a friend of hers that was causing a lot of drama around me and begged me to be her boyfriend(while she still had a boyfriend she refused to dump because she did not want to be alone. Not that I cared for that, I wasn't interested). She saw me turn her down stone as cold(hell, she even made out with that girl behind her back in a club. So much for being friends). When asked, I explained that I don't need drama in my life and that when I'm through with people, I have no interest in seeing them.

So, when I came back from my vacation, this thing went to hell while she was in my house. All her lies and bullsh*t unfoiled, so I just walked to the bathroom, picked up her brush, picked up her shoes in the hallway and dump it in front of her and told her piss off. Broken in tears she tried to reason with me or something, to which I sort of lost my temper, told her that she broke my main rules and that I don't want to be seen with those people, shoved her through my front door and slammed it shut in her face. She left in a semi-panic state.

I have no idea if that effects her as much as my personality. I've always had an attitude of that I was important and that I didn't take sh*t if boundaries were overstepped, she classified me as a bad boy player and that it was really attractive, gave her her first vaginal orgasm ever and most of all: Made her feel special without turning into a pathetic slimey little AFC.

And I think it's these last things that managed to under her skin so badly. Washed her hair every now and then when showering. Chicks love a good scalp massage, followed by a good banging. I usually always brushed her hair after showering, great kino moment and I just love doing that. Gave her "the look" that made her blush furiously, even after 4 months and every now and then put in a compliment when she behaved good. And I constantly pushed her sexual boundaries, had her do things that noone ever came up with before and that she turned out to really love. Bondage, blind folding, mild SM, exhibitionism, anal. I think she had more sex with me than ever before.

I think it's just the combo of how I kicked her out and how I made her feel.

 

[Wilko]

That's right, and losing your temper, getting a bit out of control, being aggressive didn't hurt your game. There is this [incorrect] idea that a Don Juan is always in control, that he never loses his temper and doesn't show his anger because that would indicate that he's allowing his woman to control the frame, that he's too easily affected.

This idea of the icy cool Don Juan isn't really congruent with the idea of the Don Juan who embraces his instincts and his animal passion. There IS a time and a place for a Don Juan to use raw, naked aggression (not violence).

I can see you're embracing your animal passions you dirty bastard!