backbreaker
Master Don Juan
Alot of rules you learn when dating are universal and alot of what you learn in business can be used in dating in a very practical sense.
This was touched on in another thread somewhere, that you will get alot farther with women if you figure out what your niche is and hone your powers witht hem instead of going to the ball with a shotgun. your concentrated efforts will yield more and better results.
I've used this principle throughout my business career. when I sold computers we only sold 100% custom built microATX pc's. that's it. that's a motherfvcking niche for you. But you know what.. we were damn good at it. I'm not going to get in a pc building war with dell or a gaming pc war with alienware.. but they are going to have hell trying to beat us builing these mini fvcking pc's, and we grew.
I handicap races.. pretty much everyday. I'm done "working" before noon and I head to the track and I"m there by 1pm 5 days a week.
I do something that's unheard of to 99% of all horse players. I only handicap 1 track. 1. well not one track, one circut. meaning I follow the same horses around, from santa anita, to hollywood park, then to del mar, then to the bull ring at fairplex (i usually skp that for a break), then back to santa anita, then back to Hollywood park and back to santa anita again.
Instead of having 5 tracks open and trying to find all this stuff at different tracks, I hone all my skills on one circuit and I have learned as much as I can about that circuit and I find value at times when other people can't becuase of it. There was a 20k early wager on a horse today pre race (which means the owners or trainer made a bet usually) on a trainer I knew didn't make bets, that told me right there don't' even waste my time and of course she romped.
In the mornings, I run black17media.com which is my web development company. I turn down more business than I take. We could be bigger, but if were bigger I'd have to work more. I have a particular type of client that I have figured out that I/we work best with. Tech savy people who know exactly that they want and usually already have the design work done or at least most of it and need some hard core programming done who prefer to deal with a US company. the first time someone tells me "I want to have a site that has the FEEL of" i'm gone. that is a client who doesn't know what they want. Or, "someone else told met his site would be 2x less" I'm gone. what is worth is worth paying for.
Because of it, I takl to maybe 3 clients a day and my closing rate is a shade under 50%. I know exactly what my client is looking for, exactly what my selling points are, I don't have to guess, I know price is probably not the most important issue as long as I can justify it, I know they want to constantly know what's going on with their project (which is why they want to work with a US based company) so I have an update for them by the time they wake up in the morning. By 9am i'm usually playing with my son if not done, damn near, and getting ready to got to the gym (I do get up at 4 so it's not like I've worked for an hour or something but you get the point)
I turn down that business becuase I don't want phone calls at 3pm with some client trying to explain the "feel" he is trying to get and he doesn't think we get the "feel" and is trying to explain the "feel" he wants for his website. If you haven't done enough research by the time you talk to me about what type of design you like go waste some newbs time.
I had a client... that I ****ing knew better but he the guy literary made me take he damn job, who was trying to outsource work to us (i don't' deal with third parties, that's another rule, they never work), the only thing, my 9 year old sister had more tech skills than this guy. it's like the guy listening to some winning in the cash flow business tape or somethings and he deiced he could flip websites or some ****. so we are done.. and we transfer him the files and he is *****ing to us about the deadline and he hasn't even setup the merchant account yet so she can't go live anyway and now he is forcing US to set it up or we are going.. i just sent him his money back... I should have known better.
My point in saying all this is... when dealing with women.. know what your type is. know what you do good with and focus on that. hone your skills on that type of woman, figure out what peeks her interest, what gets her going.
Take your inventory, figure out what YOU are, figure out YOUR quirks, and figure out what they work best with.
Take me. I work a lot. By work I mean I'm never home. So a home body for me is out the question. I haven't really figured it all out yet, but I go best with (just being honest) white women that were somewhat well to do growing up, non religious, college educated, no kids who enjoy reading and horses. I do particularity well with women who are somewhat snazzy or stuck up or at least think they are becuase I know what makes them tick or better yet, I know how to make them un stuck up. I don't do well with politically active women becuase I have very strong political beliefs although i'm not politically active, you will say some **** that will eventually piss me off. My fiancees entire political stance is "if it gets too bad i'll just go back to england". that's what the hell I'm talking about. no muss no fuss.
I don't care how hot she is if she's a god freak i'm turning the other way. not because of any religious beliefs, its just not that efficient for me given my track record. kids? bye. I don't even bother to look outside these criteria and if one so happens to take interest i'm not interested becuase i can foresee the clusterfvck that will partake if I escalate this issue. it's going to be a waste of time.
When I saw my fiancee I KNEW she was attracted tto me becuase ALL women just like her are attracted to me, which in turn, made me come off as somewhat arrogant and sure of myself which she ate up. I remember I told her i know she liked me and she told me then I had some nerve but then like a week later she told me she thought that was so sexy.
I use bait. I let you catch me reading that book on barbaro (note to guys, all women love barabro) even though I've read it 100 times already, becuase I know you are going to then look twice at me. I know when you actually look at me and see I take care of myself and notice the way I address you will come to the logical conclusion that I am not broke.
I also know that when you make a passing comment about the book I am reading and I pay you no real attention that is REALLY going to peak your interest becuase you are a snobby ***** that is used to guys licking your toes when you walk by them and I am different.
I know the next time you see me, you are going to make a more conscious effort to make me notice you.. i know i got you if I cant ell you put more effort into what you have on. You will sit closer to me. you will find a reason to talks o me and i will ignore you again. this will go on utnil my tongue is down your throat.
That is verbatim what happened to me about 4 years ago. I saw a redhead who I thought was pretty cute, could tell she was in college becuase of the books she had, I let her see me, she commented on the horse racing book I had and I knew I had her. 3 days later she came back in Barnes and noble and sat like 1 chair away from me and kept trying to make small talk, I still was being standoffish. She then asked me " you look like an intelligent guy let me ask you a question"..some BS **** she made up just to get me to come sit next to hear... she spent the night with me that night.
I could not have been that confident, and played it like that if I did not know exactly who I was dealing with, what makes them tick, what they are attracted to and what they do and don't like. I knew what she was going to do before she knew she was going to do it, becuase I play this game with the same pieces everyday. How I can say certain things that "omg you just get me".. no i just get your type. I remember I made in passing to her that.. before she even said anything about religion "man I don't see how people can go to church" and she was so happy becuase she found someone just like her lol... fish in a barrel.
This was touched on in another thread somewhere, that you will get alot farther with women if you figure out what your niche is and hone your powers witht hem instead of going to the ball with a shotgun. your concentrated efforts will yield more and better results.
I've used this principle throughout my business career. when I sold computers we only sold 100% custom built microATX pc's. that's it. that's a motherfvcking niche for you. But you know what.. we were damn good at it. I'm not going to get in a pc building war with dell or a gaming pc war with alienware.. but they are going to have hell trying to beat us builing these mini fvcking pc's, and we grew.
I handicap races.. pretty much everyday. I'm done "working" before noon and I head to the track and I"m there by 1pm 5 days a week.
I do something that's unheard of to 99% of all horse players. I only handicap 1 track. 1. well not one track, one circut. meaning I follow the same horses around, from santa anita, to hollywood park, then to del mar, then to the bull ring at fairplex (i usually skp that for a break), then back to santa anita, then back to Hollywood park and back to santa anita again.
Instead of having 5 tracks open and trying to find all this stuff at different tracks, I hone all my skills on one circuit and I have learned as much as I can about that circuit and I find value at times when other people can't becuase of it. There was a 20k early wager on a horse today pre race (which means the owners or trainer made a bet usually) on a trainer I knew didn't make bets, that told me right there don't' even waste my time and of course she romped.
In the mornings, I run black17media.com which is my web development company. I turn down more business than I take. We could be bigger, but if were bigger I'd have to work more. I have a particular type of client that I have figured out that I/we work best with. Tech savy people who know exactly that they want and usually already have the design work done or at least most of it and need some hard core programming done who prefer to deal with a US company. the first time someone tells me "I want to have a site that has the FEEL of" i'm gone. that is a client who doesn't know what they want. Or, "someone else told met his site would be 2x less" I'm gone. what is worth is worth paying for.
Because of it, I takl to maybe 3 clients a day and my closing rate is a shade under 50%. I know exactly what my client is looking for, exactly what my selling points are, I don't have to guess, I know price is probably not the most important issue as long as I can justify it, I know they want to constantly know what's going on with their project (which is why they want to work with a US based company) so I have an update for them by the time they wake up in the morning. By 9am i'm usually playing with my son if not done, damn near, and getting ready to got to the gym (I do get up at 4 so it's not like I've worked for an hour or something but you get the point)
I turn down that business becuase I don't want phone calls at 3pm with some client trying to explain the "feel" he is trying to get and he doesn't think we get the "feel" and is trying to explain the "feel" he wants for his website. If you haven't done enough research by the time you talk to me about what type of design you like go waste some newbs time.
I had a client... that I ****ing knew better but he the guy literary made me take he damn job, who was trying to outsource work to us (i don't' deal with third parties, that's another rule, they never work), the only thing, my 9 year old sister had more tech skills than this guy. it's like the guy listening to some winning in the cash flow business tape or somethings and he deiced he could flip websites or some ****. so we are done.. and we transfer him the files and he is *****ing to us about the deadline and he hasn't even setup the merchant account yet so she can't go live anyway and now he is forcing US to set it up or we are going.. i just sent him his money back... I should have known better.
My point in saying all this is... when dealing with women.. know what your type is. know what you do good with and focus on that. hone your skills on that type of woman, figure out what peeks her interest, what gets her going.
Take your inventory, figure out what YOU are, figure out YOUR quirks, and figure out what they work best with.
Take me. I work a lot. By work I mean I'm never home. So a home body for me is out the question. I haven't really figured it all out yet, but I go best with (just being honest) white women that were somewhat well to do growing up, non religious, college educated, no kids who enjoy reading and horses. I do particularity well with women who are somewhat snazzy or stuck up or at least think they are becuase I know what makes them tick or better yet, I know how to make them un stuck up. I don't do well with politically active women becuase I have very strong political beliefs although i'm not politically active, you will say some **** that will eventually piss me off. My fiancees entire political stance is "if it gets too bad i'll just go back to england". that's what the hell I'm talking about. no muss no fuss.
I don't care how hot she is if she's a god freak i'm turning the other way. not because of any religious beliefs, its just not that efficient for me given my track record. kids? bye. I don't even bother to look outside these criteria and if one so happens to take interest i'm not interested becuase i can foresee the clusterfvck that will partake if I escalate this issue. it's going to be a waste of time.
When I saw my fiancee I KNEW she was attracted tto me becuase ALL women just like her are attracted to me, which in turn, made me come off as somewhat arrogant and sure of myself which she ate up. I remember I told her i know she liked me and she told me then I had some nerve but then like a week later she told me she thought that was so sexy.
I use bait. I let you catch me reading that book on barbaro (note to guys, all women love barabro) even though I've read it 100 times already, becuase I know you are going to then look twice at me. I know when you actually look at me and see I take care of myself and notice the way I address you will come to the logical conclusion that I am not broke.
I also know that when you make a passing comment about the book I am reading and I pay you no real attention that is REALLY going to peak your interest becuase you are a snobby ***** that is used to guys licking your toes when you walk by them and I am different.
I know the next time you see me, you are going to make a more conscious effort to make me notice you.. i know i got you if I cant ell you put more effort into what you have on. You will sit closer to me. you will find a reason to talks o me and i will ignore you again. this will go on utnil my tongue is down your throat.
That is verbatim what happened to me about 4 years ago. I saw a redhead who I thought was pretty cute, could tell she was in college becuase of the books she had, I let her see me, she commented on the horse racing book I had and I knew I had her. 3 days later she came back in Barnes and noble and sat like 1 chair away from me and kept trying to make small talk, I still was being standoffish. She then asked me " you look like an intelligent guy let me ask you a question"..some BS **** she made up just to get me to come sit next to hear... she spent the night with me that night.
I could not have been that confident, and played it like that if I did not know exactly who I was dealing with, what makes them tick, what they are attracted to and what they do and don't like. I knew what she was going to do before she knew she was going to do it, becuase I play this game with the same pieces everyday. How I can say certain things that "omg you just get me".. no i just get your type. I remember I made in passing to her that.. before she even said anything about religion "man I don't see how people can go to church" and she was so happy becuase she found someone just like her lol... fish in a barrel.
