"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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the power of doing her right

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ok so ill admit. im not even remotely the best at sex as i wish i was. i do kegals and all that junk but **** just feels too good.

anyways... my point is. unless you screw well, not many chicks are gunna stick around. especially at a young age. so for those of you who want your chicks to come back for more, i suggest you do kegals as much as you possible can every day of your life. my theory is that that is why girls are so slutty. not many guys are good in the sack so get good and youll have the power, more ***** running to your door. if you suck, girls know this, and know you arent keeping many other chicks. if your actually good tho, theyll go out of their way to keep you ****ing them.

just my 2cents.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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danthemann said:
unless you screw well, not many chicks are gunna stick around. especially at a young age. . . . if your actually good tho, theyll go out of their way to keep you ****ing them.
Women spread for many reasons. Having a climax is not in the top 5 for most -- and not in the top 10 for many.

They don't really need sex except for a couple of days a month when they're in heat. They take a long time to turn on. They're easily distracted by their own thoughts, easily put off by feeling tired, and so forth. If they reach the plateau phase, they often can't orgasm at all -- they just tense up and hold their breath and make stupid whining and grunting noises. Women are real bad about working on their own orgasms anyway.

If you get her to (hopefully multiple) orgasm one night, anticipate that it'll be more difficult the next few days (when she's crazy to fvck you again but physically not as hungry for it and maybe even has a sore vagina). Sure, you can ply her with wine and foreplay and such, but you might only succeed in making her frustrated as hell when you finally give up on her and go for yours. The second and third nights together are much more gratifying for men.

Working your azz off to satisfy a woman doesn't in any way mean she'll show any gratitude. Instead, she'll take you for granted for the next few days. If she's also falling out of heat, her behavior will just get worse and worse.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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danthemann: What relationship type are you trying for with these girls? Girlfriend, FwB, one-nighter?

If you just want the sluts, then they aren't really gonna stick around anyway..
 

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im just saying. it seems like a good amount of young guys come around here like me and if your good in bed, get a girl in bed slut or no slut shes gunna wanna come back for more. this sets you in a good position to spin plates... if you got em comin back even if its just for sex.
im trying to figure out how to last longer thats my only issue and nothing works so i guess i just dno how use my **** right :\
 

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danthemann said:
im just saying. it seems like a good amount of young guys come around here like me and if your good in bed, get a girl in bed slut or no slut shes gunna wanna come back for more. this sets you in a good position to spin plates... if you got em comin back even if its just for sex.
im trying to figure out how to last longer thats my only issue and nothing works so i guess i just dno how use my **** right :\

If you want to last longer then you have to treat your wank sessions like a training session.

You can up your endurance by wanking until you are about to climax and then stop at that point. Then repeat that. This is the best way to build up your endurance.
 

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SharinganUser said:
If you want to last longer then you have to treat your wank sessions like a training session.

You can up your endurance by wanking until you are about to climax and then stop at that point. Then repeat that. This is the best way to build up your endurance.
Yeah, you have to train your Johnston like working out, and blowing your load is like pulling a muscle.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PnCWysfzsKU&list=UU9t9iqz6Fih95arPzlhjuzg&index=7&feature=plcp

I was gonna try some of these methods, I thought I'd share :)
 

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I cant get my head around this lasting longer for her , mindset. if you want to last longer for you, fine, some women dont like hours of in out in out though, personally I find it really f cking boring going too long and just wont bother.
I **** because its pleasure, not because I think I should be a p0rn star. its a pleasurable pursuit, not a gym session
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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betheman said:
I cant get my head around this lasting longer for her , mindset. if you want to last longer for you, fine, some women dont like hours of in out in out though, personally I find it really f cking boring going too long and just wont bother.
I **** because its pleasure, not because I think I should be a p0rn star. its a pleasurable pursuit, not a gym session

That's fine for you, but I take great pride that one of my ex's called me a sex machine. And sex should never be boring, even if it does last a while. I don't think pleasure and lasting long should be mutually exclusive.
 

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That's fine for you, but I take great pride that one of my ex's called me a sex machine. And sex should never be boring, even if it does last a while. I don't think pleasure and lasting long should be mutually exclusive.
only one of them??? ;-)

apaprently Ive got a 'very healthy appetite' but lets face it, women are rarely going to say anything negative about you unless your really cr@p, you only ever become a bad lover when you break up and she is slagging you off to all ehr friends. Ive learned to take any plaudits with a pinch of salt and make my pleasure the priority
 

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I dont think the what you do inside her pvssy is comparable to what you do insider her head, in the last 6 months I had sex with 3 different girls and with all of them my performances were bad, were bad in the thrusting and were bad in the licking.

One of them even told me that Im not that good which I didnt mind since I know its true, however anyone of them called me to go out, meeting in day time and have sex again.

Im sure that happens because I dont give too much of a fvck and they cannot accept the fact that after having a taste of them Im not running to get some more.
Screwing their heads bonds them much much than screwing their pvssies.
 

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This is the kind of thinking that puts way too much pressure on guys who have enough on them already. Now it's not enough you have to be an alpha dog with social proof, who's wealthy with a cool car, who doesn't blink at her sh!t tests, who smiles at rejection, makes clever conversations, negs her skillfully, plays c0cky/funny with the perfect balance, can tool out the other guys who hit on her, is a snappy dresser, etc etc... Now you have to be able to fvck like a porn star too. Just what guys starting out need to hear.

Sex is more about emotions and what goes on between your ears anyway - especially for women.
 

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betheman said:
only one of them??? ;-)

apaprently Ive got a 'very healthy appetite' but lets face it, women are rarely going to say anything negative about you unless your really cr@p, you only ever become a bad lover when you break up and she is slagging you off to all ehr friends. Ive learned to take any plaudits with a pinch of salt and make my pleasure the priority
lol actually it was a few now that I think about it but that's besides the point.

I agree with you on this, but let me put it this way. How long do you think a you would keep a girl around if she were a dead fish? Not long I'd imagine. If I want to keep a girl around then I'd better try my best in the sack. Even if it's just a one night stand I still have my reputation to consider.

That and for me it's just fun to last longer than she can.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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exactly my point. if you suck in the sack, why would she keep you around. especially if shes young... so the better you are the more power you have. If your screwing her well then shes not gunna leave you or venture very far to find more.

to the guy complaining about all the stuff we gotta do already, i feel ya but it all wouldnt be worth it if when u get her into bed you cant even keep her there. sure youll run across the chicks who just dont care or want a one night stand, but dont you think if you screw them right theyll wanna come back for more? If you got in bed with a freak, youd want her to keep coming back so you better be just as big if not a bigger freak than she is. any girl good at sex isnt staying around long with a chump who cant hold his load

take it from someone who learned is personally. maybe she is a slut but if i was better in the sack, shed be loyal. as ****ty as that sounds thats how it is. especially with younger chicks. they wanna be with someone who can **** em.
 

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I would like to last longer because I feel like I would enjoy the actual sex rather than just the orgasm part. Even if the orgasm feels good, it would still be boring as hell for me since it went by so quickly. I wanna last longer for both me and her.
 
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