"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The Points System

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After getting a lot of feedback and people asking me about the "points system" I thought I would make it a tip.


What is it?


The Points System is an arbitrary way for you to qualify a girl and be in control of the interaction while at the same time being funny.


How to introduce it?


The first time the girl does or says something you like, give her 5 points.

Example:

HB "blah blah I like to draw pictures of cats!"

DJ "Awesome! I love pictures of cats. You just got 5 points! That's sweet."

HB "What?! hahaha"



How to keep it going?


Every time she does something you don't like you take away points. If she ever gets into negative points then you tell her she needs to redeem herself.

Keep giving her points for things that you like about her. If you like her smile or whatever else. Like I said it's all arbitrary.



When to stop.


Sometime during the night she will ask you what she gets to do with all her points. Just tell her she'll see later...

After playing this game for awhile, it's important that you STOP PLAYING IT ENTIRELY!!!!

If for everything she says you either give or take away points she's gonna think you are wierd. Just stop after a few hours.

She already knows that she has points and that "she'll see" what she can use them for. If you bring this girl in isolation and start making out, she will backwards rationalize not even logically that she earned it. Thus, you are keeping yourself as the prize that she needs to earn via the points system.

Enjoy.



animal crackers
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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awesome. seems like a fun thing to do (in moderation, of course)

i'll be using this :woo:
 

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give credit where due

The Point System was first put foward by Carlos Xuma in his Dating Dynamics book and newsletter. Yep, it works, but it gets old fast, so use it sparingly.
 
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