"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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jmeh13

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So I am in college..... It has started. School is now back in and im on top of my game. I have been getting new girls every day. Work, class, parties, bars I have been putting in work.

The only thing is I have been having a little trouble getting the real nice girls: beautiful, Smart, funny, has morals lol. I have kinda got a reputation of being a player. people call me the van wilder of my school. So how do i kinda get away from this reputation when i get with these nicer girls?

I will be about to close the deal and they tell me **** like my friends tell me not to hook up with you cause your a player and what not. Im really not. I am a nice guy that just hooks up with a lot of girls
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Five To One

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Say you have been with so many women because you havnt found the right one yet, you havnt found one that matches you, you are looking for a relationship with someone special, ect.

If she says "maybe that girl you are looking for is me" then agree with her but if she doesnt say anything like that you can easily qualify her by going ahead and saying "maybe that girl will be you" with a smile.

Usually saying something like that is afc and not the way to create attraction but in this case its necessary to make her feel special. She knows you have been with a lot of girls, you need to make her feel like she is different from all the rest you have been with.
 

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question...what is your response to this charge of being a player? how do you respond?
 

Five To One

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when a girl calls me a player I would respond with

"Yea Iv dated around but I have no problem being with one women if she is the right one."

If they are being agressive about the question and call b.s. then I say

"I didnt know there was a limit on how many women you can meet." but in a joking way.

and consider her pressing the question as a red flag, she may be too much to deal with.
 

jmeh13

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Warrior74 said:
question...what is your response to this charge of being a player? how do you respond?
hahaha I usully tell them something like i havent found the right one or I say that I don't like to cheating so whenever i think about dating a girl I ask myself would i cheat on this girl. I tell her usually its yes because i havent found anyone special...... then she smiles and punches me and calls me a butthead or something like that. I usually enjoy the response but I guess i just dont really care too much to be called a player. I don't know why that bothers me. I mean maybe i am and maybe i define player differently than others
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Metaphysical

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every player needs to start somewhere. you cannot expect to run the day you were born. you gotta crawl, then you got to walk and then finally u can run.

you got to take those women step by step.

god knows how many uglies i boned before my first hot girlfriend
 
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