So now what? Re-program myself? Get better at "managing"? Try some "boring" women for a change?
By "managing", I mean managing yourself concerning the woman's ups and downs, not managing the woman herself. That is to say, in your particular case Juando, a woman who has some moodiness. Not a head case like Jophil may be describing!
So "managing" is simply like knowing what dance steps are needed to navigate things and lead.
Other than that, I'd agree, why bother with a screwball.
Except to screw and ball.
(Ha! I just made that up!)
Again, Juando, you have to figure whether her small amount of moodiness is really a deal breaker for you. EVERYBODY has something wrong with them, you know. How's everything else with her?
but why the F should this be required in the first place. I have been in a relationship with a grown professional woman a few years ago. I was more in the role of "daddy" or "Camp counselor" than SO.
My thinking is, and I posted this above in this thread, that one avoids becoming her advisor or therapist, which is akin to becoming like her daddy or camp counselor.
When a new woman starts telling me about her problems, I listen (to also see what she reveals about herself and her issues, that's when you'll learn tons about them) and after a little bit I'll ask her if she wants to lie down on a couch and tell me more, or that if I hear any more I'll have to charge her $125 an hour. That usually puts an end to it.
I have a patented, award winning "method" now that works really well .
When a women does some dumb shyte ( that would usually get me pissed enough in the past to talk about it for hours), I just stare at her for a few seconds slowly shaking my head from side to side. Then I just turn and walk away without another word.
Maybe that works because that's what women would do (no offense meant) and so they understand it. You know, like when you get those icy glares and pursed lips and you can actually see the thought bubble pop out of their head saying "YOU are SUCH an AssH@le!"
SHe invariably saw ME as 'the problem' for creating a conversation about her actions.
The old "blame the guy for what she does, accept no responsibility".
Speaking of which, I came across this outstanding example yesterday where a woman was blaming men for the existence of golddiggers, very speciously reasoning that women exploit men because men only have one thing on their minds and so therefore why shouldn't women get what they can out of the guy in terms of monetary value. Good lord!
