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The phone call

slitherjef

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Time to make my self scarce. The ball is in her court now. Before this site I would have not seen this, but since this site, I know she is playing games. Trying to get me to chase her. But I suppose I was. I suppose the phone call was a little too soon, which is hard to gauge since I see her at work (I know I know).

I know I am being played. We will see when (if) she calls be back. But still I am a we bit pissed off because I was going to ask her to hang with me. Well, err, was going to tell her, "I got some free time after work Saturday, pick me up around 730 and we can hang, you know, grab some coffee and walk in the park" A call that should have taken two minutes after a little chatter and fun BS.

I know she is a very social person. Im pretty sure there was someone she was talking to when I called but the excuse seamed kind of cheap, but hell for all I know it could be true. Who knows. I did not get to have that little 2 min conversation to set up the friggin date. Yes. I know what she is doing thanks to this site. Its time to mind my own business at work, stay away from her, let her confront me. Its her play now...

Me: Hey whats up
Her: Who is this?
Me: who is this? Who do ya think it is (playful sarcastic)
Her: I don't know
Me: Guess
Her: Erm uh... pete?
Me: Who? Damn how many boyfriends do you have? Its slitherjef
Her: Oh hey! (pause and I hear some chatter in the background, her friend)
Me: (getting ready to ask if she was off work)
Her: Hey, can I call you back?
Me: (NOT GOOD NOT GOOD! DAMNIT!!!)
Her: Im talking with one of my friends about cars.

Me: ....Sigh I suppose.... Later :rolleyes:
Her: Later


Go ahead and say it. I know you are going to
What a way screw it up.

*IF* she does call me back tonight I will be very suprised and will not answer. When I see her at work its her job to find me. Im just a bit pissed off. I knew women played games, or she is just not interested in me after all. Its her play. She knows how to find me.
 

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they don't really play games...she's probably just not interested in you (yet). Are we supposed to read your mind about what the context for all this was? Maybe you just haven't done anything to get her interested in you...

And no, it's not a major screw up just because you approach a woman and she blows you off. On the contrary, it's practically a success.

Referring to yourself as her "boyfriend" by implication might have been pushing the envelope a little, btw.
 

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Wow...this is one of most trivial worries I've ever read about. It's a phone call...she said she'll call you back. If she does, great. If she doesn't...find another girl(s)? Of course...she's not the last one in your life.
 

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Obsidian said:
they don't really play games...she's probably just not interested in you (yet). Are we supposed to read your mind about what the context for all this was? Maybe you just haven't done anything to get her interested in you...

And no, it's not a major screw up just because you approach a woman and she blows you off. On the contrary, it's practically a success.

Referring to yourself as her "boyfriend" by implication might have been pushing the envelope a little, btw.

Yeah, I realized that slip as soon as it came out of my mouth, I had no intentions of making that come out as it did. Oops. That was a slip.

You said maybe I have not done anything to get her interested in me yet. I figured I did something right, but hell, Im still new at this. Maybe I havent. That was the intent of the phone call, to get her to hang with me. Im trying to get her interested with out looking desperate.

And fbplayer06
Yeah, I guess you are right, its a trivial post, but what do you expect from a noob? I figure start gaming one when you are just starting out, instead of like 6. Im not a pimp yet LOL
 

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Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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You need to start gaming every girl you come into contact with ASAP, if for nothing other than practice. I take it you haven't read much of the Bible yet? Link at the bottom... (and I highly recommend Pook's book)
 

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slitherjef said:
Time to make my self scarce. The ball is in her court now. Before this site I would have not seen this, but since this site, I know she is playing games. Trying to get me to chase her. But I suppose I was. I suppose the phone call was a little too soon, which is hard to gauge since I see her at work (I know I know).

I know I am being played. We will see when (if) she calls be back. But still I am a we bit pissed off because I was going to ask her to hang with me. Well, err, was going to tell her, "I got some free time after work Saturday, pick me up around 730 and we can hang, you know, grab some coffee and walk in the park" A call that should have taken two minutes after a little chatter and fun BS.

I know she is a very social person. Im pretty sure there was someone she was talking to when I called but the excuse seamed kind of cheap, but hell for all I know it could be true. Who knows. I did not get to have that little 2 min conversation to set up the friggin date. Yes. I know what she is doing thanks to this site. Its time to mind my own business at work, stay away from her, let her confront me. Its her play now...

Me: Hey whats up
Her: Who is this?
Me: who is this? Who do ya think it is (playful sarcastic)
Her: I don't know
Me: Guess
Her: Erm uh... pete?
Me: Who? Damn how many boyfriends do you have? Its slitherjef
Her: Oh hey! (pause and I hear some chatter in the background, her friend)
Me: (getting ready to ask if she was off work)
Her: Hey, can I call you back?
Me: (NOT GOOD NOT GOOD! DAMNIT!!!)
Her: Im talking with one of my friends about cars.

Me: ....Sigh I suppose.... Later :rolleyes:
Her: Later


Go ahead and say it. I know you are going to
What a way screw it up.

*IF* she does call me back tonight I will be very suprised and will not answer. When I see her at work its her job to find me. Im just a bit pissed off. I knew women played games, or she is just not interested in me after all. Its her play. She knows how to find me.
they were probably talking about how to fit a penis in their mouths.
Girls make up so much B.S. Just move on to a different chick.
 

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"Just move onto a different girl" yeah probably should do that. I seen her at work today, said noting to her until the end of my shift when I walked out and that was a "hey you" which she replied "hey" back, which was a bit dry. I kept walking and on out the door. The thought did cross my mind that maybe she is just having a bad day.

Looks like I screwed something up here, but it would be nice to know what. I have a feeling it was probably getting too friendly (show too much interest) to fast, And because of the comment that slipped out. I thought she was interested, Hell she probably was, she gave me her number. But after that, things went to crap. Im just trying to figure out what so I know not to do it again.

I will back off, keep my distance and if anything is said it will be hey and if she starts the conversation, I will talk. Don't want no sour problems at work
Looks like this is over before it starts. :rolleyes:

This may not seem like a big deal to most of you here, but its as far as I ever got with a women.

Sad
 

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You must have come across awkward in some way. Too much awkwardness kills it all.

Judging by her *actions*, i can say with nearly 100% certainity that she has other guys on deck. You are disposable because she has so many other options. What good-looking socialable girl doesn't have guys ringing her phone off the hook?

You have to separate yourself from those other guys.

Here is what you need to do:

1) Avoid her. When you two cross each other's paths, look away in a semi-snotty manner. Don't say a word.

What have you done? Got her thinking why your not a subserviant b*tch boy like all the other guys are to her. It will fire-up her emotional engine, and if nothing else, create a spark.

2) Be Mr. Don Juan at work. Smile at the other girls, give them your precious attention. Get them playful with you. After all, most girls want what other girls want right? She had you and blew you off ..not good and she knows that.

3) Be successful at work. I don't know what you do, but do it better than anyone and make sure people know this in an indirect manner.

That's all you need, she'll start going out of her way in getting you to notice her. She'll also come up and start talking to YOU. Now you have leverage. You need to keep that leverage though, always be in the driver's seat.
 

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tmpgstx said:
You must have come across awkward in some way. Too much awkwardness kills it all.

Judging by her *actions*, i can say with nearly 100% certainity that she has other guys on deck. You are disposable because she has so many other options. What good-looking socialable girl doesn't have guys ringing her phone off the hook?

You have to separate yourself from those other guys.

Here is what you need to do:

1) Avoid her. When you two cross each other's paths, look away in a semi-snotty manner. Don't say a word.

What have you done? Got her thinking why your not a subserviant b*tch boy like all the other guys are to her. It will fire-up her emotional engine, and if nothing else, create a spark.

2) Be Mr. Don Juan at work. Smile at the other girls, give them your precious attention. Get them playful with you. After all, most girls want what other girls want right? She had you and blew you off ..not good and she knows that.

3) Be successful at work. I don't know what you do, but do it better than anyone and make sure people know this in an indirect manner.

That's all you need, she'll start going out of her way in getting you to notice her. She'll also come up and start talking to YOU. Now you have leverage. You need to keep that leverage though, always be in the driver's seat.
Thanks for the info. And you where right, it looks as if she has some other guy interested in her as well. Why not? She is hot, but I noticed this guy who also works there but in a different area of the store, hangs around her alot. Like on breaks and down times. Today I did see her (and the other guy) a couple times, but I did not look at her. Im sure I was noticed while I went on about my business. I ignored her. Did not say crap to her today, even though part of me wanted to go up there and tell her im sorry and kiss her ass and such, but I did not. Total business.

While I was doing my business I noticed this other guy trying to hand her something, or being handed something, maybe cash, I suspect it was for a favor.

Eff it. This is the card I am going to play. I don't want no more stress at work then I already have. I well probably end up running directly into her and if thats the case, Im going to be all business. Play it cool Why don't I say "hi" anymore?" because I was busy. Why not call? "Too busy" or "what, does your phone only work for recieving calls" If she starts using her beauty to get my attention, call her on it.

But, I still am not gonna lie to you, I still want to hit it. And if she wants a piece of this, she is gonna have to work for it, then it will be if I feel like it :)

I figure if nothing else, I can watch this guy who, to me at least, seems like a puppy who follows her around, get wrapped around her finger.

I also had another thought that maybe this chicks, "anti-sl** shield" may have popped up.

I did not get the chance to do any plays today, which sucked but oh well.
 

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