"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
The Perfect Birthday Gift.
- Thread starter Akilles
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Desdinova
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)What I plan to do in a few weeks for a woman's birthday is taking her to her favorite place to eat, have a bottle of her favorite wine along with some of her favorite flowers back at my place, then make her feel like a woman. It's not expensive, but minor planning ahead such as this makes a woman happy because it proves you listen to what she likes, you also like what she likes, and you took the time to think and make what she likes happen in one day. The dinner can get expensive sometimes, so if you want to cut this cost you can just cook her favorite meal at your house, which could add more sentiments if you cooked well.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Get a decent bottle of wine, make her a candlelit dinner. It isn't that $$$, but will score you alot of points.
6 months? if everything is going well then something nice but not over $50 i'd say.
Cards i'd avoid unless it's a funny one. the only one i ever used was had big casanova/afc shpiel on the front, but when you open it, words from the front are actually again on the back and spelled out "You better put out."
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Rhoto
Master Don Juan
You're not going to get married, so why waste your money?