The Paradox of Wanting to be a Social Dynamics Master

[eggnogdog]

I want to be good fast. Everyone does. I have spent the last week poring over tons of Sosuave, ASF, and Bristol lair stuff. I've read Weapons of Mass Seduction. I find all of this to be second in fun only to socializing itself.

The paradox arises in that I feel my mind is dominated by thoughts of understanding social dynamics, yet these thoughts make my social dynamics weaker. Instead of being funny or interesting, I'm thinking about hwo I can be socially awesome. Learning this stuff is what I want to do, this is the most interesting thing I've ever come across and do I have passions, but this has become my dominant interest. Should I just let myself continue absorbing until I know the ways of the "PUA" or what?

 

[Dante3214]

Slow your mind, and never over-analyze.

You may have fantastic energy, but spreading it all in many directions won't get you anywhere.

Focusing on what you know you want is great, but make sure you actually want it...

 

[eggnogdog]

What do you mean by slow your mind?

 

[Dante3214]

Hehe... concentrate on one thing.


Leave time in your day for relaxation.


Meditate... whatever you might call it.

 

[AB500]

Keep all the complicated patterns and things on the backburner. Never let thinking about if you should be doing c/f at the moment get in the way of you being a DJ and socializing. It'll come natural if you just pick one or two things to try to incorperate into your personality every week or so.

I also hope your not focusing on specific techniques, the best way to learn is to become one with the teachings, you think therefore you are. Adapt the DJ mindset and you'll be fine.