Here is the link to my previous thread with the background information:
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=28820
So here’s what went down. She did end up calling back—she and her friend picked me up at my house and we went over to her friends’ house to watch a movie. I thought there would be more people there, but it was just the three of us. At first, this is what I would have wanted, but by the time of the event I was hoping for more of a party atmosphere with more people. It would have given me the opportunity to practice my social skills and meet new friends, expand my horizons. Anyway, halfway through the movie, the DVD started skipping, so they shut it off (I didn’t really care—I’d seen the movie a long time ago—it was pretty lame, anyway.) They ended up taking me on a spontaneous trip with them in their car, driving aimlessly around town, me in the back seat—the two of them in the front.
During the car ride, both to her friend’s house, as well and the spontaneous trip around town, I got what I believe is a clue into what this girl (and her friend) actually thought of me. Their topics of conversation could be considered a guy’s nightmare. They would talk about old boyfriends, as well as other guys they thought were cute. They joked around about stalking this guy they had a crush on. I was asked the one question I hoped I wouldn’t be asked. “Have you ever had a girlfriend?” Luckily I had anticipated it—I just replied “Yeah—a few times. Don’t make me talk about past relationships.”(I’m not sure they heard the second part of my response). The girl mentions her old boyfriend moving away, and how much she misses him, even though he turned psycho “but a good psycho, you know what I mean?” At one point the topic turned to bodily functions—listening to girls’ conversation about passing gas is not my idea of a good time. Her friend, apparently remembering I was still in the back seat (and this was only on the ride over) said something to the effect of “Poor krd, he must be mortified” I said. “Don’t mind me—I’ll just block you guys out—I’m pretty good at it.”
Another topic of conversation was their speculations about the genital size of a male friend they knew. Attempting to subtlely remind them that the person riding with them was of the male persuasion, I said, “Do you usually talk this way around guys?” Her friend said “Yeah”, although I’m not sure that’s so true. She said, “Why, are we offending you”. I said “no, not really”. I was more uncomfortable than offended—maybe I should have said something to that effect. The girl chimes in, “I had sex once. But I didn’t really like it.” Not that I really wanted to know. Her friend replied that she really liked sex, and joked that she slept around, but then said "I'd better be careful. I don't want krd thinking the wrong thing." The wrong thing being, perhaps, that she'd even for a second consider sleeping with me.
They even joked at one point about tying me up and throwing me out of the car, although I didn’t really think it was funny. Eventually after driving around a while, the girl looks back to me and says, “Are you bored?” I said “Yeah, slightly”. I asked if they were planning on doing anything else, and they said no. So we agreed that they would take me home. I thanked them for an interesting night and said, “Hope you get your DVD working again.”
My conclusion after coming home from that experience was that this girl is not interested in me at all. No girl would talk that way in front of a guy she is interested in. Common sense would be that she would at least try to make a good impression. It’s as if these girls didn’t even see me as a guy—I may as well have been one of their girlfriends. Story of my life.
I discussed my experience with several other people, and they came up with the other possibility that this girl is simply just young and immature. I actually got this impression from talking to her on the phone, and Friday night’s get-together confirmed it. I believe she’s told me that she’s only been attending college for a couple of semesters, so she’s most likely fresh out of high school. My 17 year old brother says it’s normal for girls to talk like this, and that I need to chill out (he’s not a fan of this site by the way. Ironically, he’s already had about three girlfriends, Some of them had him whipped pretty bad, but they wouldn’t have gone out with him at all if he wasn’t doing something right). My best friend says I should just accept the fact that she’s immature, and to say yes if she asks to hang out again. And if she’s not interested in me, she may have friends that are.
Although, despite this girl’s immaturity, I found it very impressive, even downright surprised, that she was so consistent in calling me when she was supposed to. She even called me about an hour before to tell me she was waiting to hear from her friend, but that she’d call me right back when she heard what the plans were going to be. I just find it frustrating, because when I find a girl who I think seems genuinely interested in me, it turns out to not be true. Despite everything I’ve found out through this site, I’ve never had the experience of a girl, who wasn’t unattractive and had low self-esteem, to be interested in me. Anyway, after two previous threads on the subject, I thought I should post one more on the outcome. Hope you’ve enjoyed.
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=28820
So here’s what went down. She did end up calling back—she and her friend picked me up at my house and we went over to her friends’ house to watch a movie. I thought there would be more people there, but it was just the three of us. At first, this is what I would have wanted, but by the time of the event I was hoping for more of a party atmosphere with more people. It would have given me the opportunity to practice my social skills and meet new friends, expand my horizons. Anyway, halfway through the movie, the DVD started skipping, so they shut it off (I didn’t really care—I’d seen the movie a long time ago—it was pretty lame, anyway.) They ended up taking me on a spontaneous trip with them in their car, driving aimlessly around town, me in the back seat—the two of them in the front.
During the car ride, both to her friend’s house, as well and the spontaneous trip around town, I got what I believe is a clue into what this girl (and her friend) actually thought of me. Their topics of conversation could be considered a guy’s nightmare. They would talk about old boyfriends, as well as other guys they thought were cute. They joked around about stalking this guy they had a crush on. I was asked the one question I hoped I wouldn’t be asked. “Have you ever had a girlfriend?” Luckily I had anticipated it—I just replied “Yeah—a few times. Don’t make me talk about past relationships.”(I’m not sure they heard the second part of my response). The girl mentions her old boyfriend moving away, and how much she misses him, even though he turned psycho “but a good psycho, you know what I mean?” At one point the topic turned to bodily functions—listening to girls’ conversation about passing gas is not my idea of a good time. Her friend, apparently remembering I was still in the back seat (and this was only on the ride over) said something to the effect of “Poor krd, he must be mortified” I said. “Don’t mind me—I’ll just block you guys out—I’m pretty good at it.”
Another topic of conversation was their speculations about the genital size of a male friend they knew. Attempting to subtlely remind them that the person riding with them was of the male persuasion, I said, “Do you usually talk this way around guys?” Her friend said “Yeah”, although I’m not sure that’s so true. She said, “Why, are we offending you”. I said “no, not really”. I was more uncomfortable than offended—maybe I should have said something to that effect. The girl chimes in, “I had sex once. But I didn’t really like it.” Not that I really wanted to know. Her friend replied that she really liked sex, and joked that she slept around, but then said "I'd better be careful. I don't want krd thinking the wrong thing." The wrong thing being, perhaps, that she'd even for a second consider sleeping with me.
They even joked at one point about tying me up and throwing me out of the car, although I didn’t really think it was funny. Eventually after driving around a while, the girl looks back to me and says, “Are you bored?” I said “Yeah, slightly”. I asked if they were planning on doing anything else, and they said no. So we agreed that they would take me home. I thanked them for an interesting night and said, “Hope you get your DVD working again.”
My conclusion after coming home from that experience was that this girl is not interested in me at all. No girl would talk that way in front of a guy she is interested in. Common sense would be that she would at least try to make a good impression. It’s as if these girls didn’t even see me as a guy—I may as well have been one of their girlfriends. Story of my life.
I discussed my experience with several other people, and they came up with the other possibility that this girl is simply just young and immature. I actually got this impression from talking to her on the phone, and Friday night’s get-together confirmed it. I believe she’s told me that she’s only been attending college for a couple of semesters, so she’s most likely fresh out of high school. My 17 year old brother says it’s normal for girls to talk like this, and that I need to chill out (he’s not a fan of this site by the way. Ironically, he’s already had about three girlfriends, Some of them had him whipped pretty bad, but they wouldn’t have gone out with him at all if he wasn’t doing something right). My best friend says I should just accept the fact that she’s immature, and to say yes if she asks to hang out again. And if she’s not interested in me, she may have friends that are.
Although, despite this girl’s immaturity, I found it very impressive, even downright surprised, that she was so consistent in calling me when she was supposed to. She even called me about an hour before to tell me she was waiting to hear from her friend, but that she’d call me right back when she heard what the plans were going to be. I just find it frustrating, because when I find a girl who I think seems genuinely interested in me, it turns out to not be true. Despite everything I’ve found out through this site, I’ve never had the experience of a girl, who wasn’t unattractive and had low self-esteem, to be interested in me. Anyway, after two previous threads on the subject, I thought I should post one more on the outcome. Hope you’ve enjoyed.
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