"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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The options I have for a new career, move forward - which one should I take from the options

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I have a few options up my belt, I am working full time, have savings, have a monthly salary, so I can study, do all of these on the side, I am in my mid 30s.

I've got a full time job, however there is no progression, no pay progression, hence I really do need to move on.

Work is work, so I'm not bothered which avenue I go in.

The options are:

-There are some Java, C#, Python, .net, JavaScript jobs without a degree required, a portfolio and skills will suffice or network my way in for a job

-Try to do freelance web development and establish contracts, establish myself

-Develop many complex android, iOS apps and try to get into a contract mobile app developer job, contracting, or network my way into a contract

-Since I don't have a degree, I can get into a masters on Computer Science course performance based admission and upon completion I've counted on the job sites there are loads of graduate programmer, software developer, software engineer, AI, some cloud computing, data science, data engineer jobs available for graduates

-Do a plumbing course, plumbers are well paid here in the UK and there is a possibility for self employment, contracts

-Do an electrician course, again, the pay is good and scope for contracts, self employment

-Or do a masters degree in a different subject, perhaps some subjects allow a performance based admission

-Use my customer service experience to try to move into an office job, I'm thinking of logistics work etc or find an agency that provides office work. Work my way up
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I've been thinking a lot, I may take a plumbing course and then become a sub contractor, then a contractor.

Secure, stable option. The money is good.

I also may still study a masters degree as a hobby.
 
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