"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The options I have for a new career, move forward - which one should I take from the options

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I have a few options up my belt, I am working full time, have savings, have a monthly salary, so I can study, do all of these on the side, I am in my mid 30s.

I've got a full time job, however there is no progression, no pay progression, hence I really do need to move on.

Work is work, so I'm not bothered which avenue I go in.

The options are:

-There are some Java, C#, Python, .net, JavaScript jobs without a degree required, a portfolio and skills will suffice or network my way in for a job

-Try to do freelance web development and establish contracts, establish myself

-Develop many complex android, iOS apps and try to get into a contract mobile app developer job, contracting, or network my way into a contract

-Since I don't have a degree, I can get into a masters on Computer Science course performance based admission and upon completion I've counted on the job sites there are loads of graduate programmer, software developer, software engineer, AI, some cloud computing, data science, data engineer jobs available for graduates

-Do a plumbing course, plumbers are well paid here in the UK and there is a possibility for self employment, contracts

-Do an electrician course, again, the pay is good and scope for contracts, self employment

-Or do a masters degree in a different subject, perhaps some subjects allow a performance based admission

-Use my customer service experience to try to move into an office job, I'm thinking of logistics work etc or find an agency that provides office work. Work my way up
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I've been thinking a lot, I may take a plumbing course and then become a sub contractor, then a contractor.

Secure, stable option. The money is good.

I also may still study a masters degree as a hobby.
 
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