"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The onus on the man to keep the easily bored entertained?

ThisNThat

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So often I would see "men" dating topics arise when it comes to a guy struggling with some dating issues, and that the onus is really on HIM to keep her "entertained" and being lulled into boredom...eventually.

This is kind of equivalent to a spoiled kid getting bored of a new toy. You see, I haven't really grown up spoiled and appreciate the little things.

As far as I'm concerned, someone, ANY gender, that gets bored that easily...they are the ones with the problem and it's not up to me to supplicant their boredom. So I'm not going to listen to dating advice that caters to that mantra.

There's this one female friend I have, the only time she calls me is on her commute home from work. She doesn't wait until she gets home to call me...which I find odd. Come to find out, she's trying to alleviate her boredom on the commute. I actually called her on this.

One time when she called, I didn't have that much to say for some reason, so I was about to say I was going to head off when she said, "So tell me blah blah blah"

She said it in a way that she was deliberately trying to entertain her by coming up with random topics to keep the convo going until she got home. lol

"Bill, entertain me until I get home, please!"

Usually, I'm a funny guy, and one time I was not in that kind of mood...a woman said to me, "Make me laugh, you're always a funny guy!"

No joke, I swear I thought I was transported to the middle ages and I was wearing a court jesture costume. lol "Make me laugh, fool or OFF with your head!"

Good thing they were just female friends, because ...well, they just casual friends. But it's an interesting perspective on what men the DATE have to look forward to. lol Poor them, right?

People in general are spoiled though, they don't appreciate what they have because it probably all stems back to childhood or something where they may have had parents that would get them the newest toy that the kids are talking about at school.

For instance, my parents never got me a Nintendo in the 80s, they were like "You have your Atari...and probably 30 games, so you don't NEED a Nintendo!!" So there ya have it. I wasn't spoiled like most people are.

Made me appreciate things more, but apparently, when it comes to dating...there are a lot of ingrates out there that bore easily.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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SgtSplacker

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One of the first lessons of love I learned was to get a girl used to entertaining herself early on in the relationship.

Women already have a tendency to do nothing and spend their time trying to manage or control their mates time and activities.

Girl I'm seeing now won't do anything for herself except smoke, drink and hang with friends. While I'm planning fishing trips, hiking, home projects etc.
 

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Every guy in a female's life has a purpose. To give her attention, validation, excitement, sex, entertainment, stability, etc.

If you're not getting sex, don't give her any of those other things.
So how do you get the woman to give you sex in the first place without giving her those things?

A woman who fvcks me on the first date raises a lot of red flags.
 

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I always say, "Flip the frame".

Your inner mindset should be that she must entertain and interest you. And she should subtly be made aware of this.

When you sh!t test a woman (and men don't do this nearly enough), she will start to qualify herself to you. Once that happens, it's game over for her.

When it comes to women, always think in terms of flipping the frame.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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