The ones who started at the bottom

[bob246]

I really am at the bottom at the moment. Im 18 and got no job and dont know if i will go to college. I physically am looking awful and need to take steps to do something about it. Mentally im on a low. Girls arent in my mind at all. I got to sort myself out and i know it will take a long long time. If i dont feel good about myself and dont like myself, i cant have a girlfriend.

Id just like to know for the people who have started at the bottom. Is the hard work worth it? Did you make it? Id like to hear some success stories for some motivation.

 

[diplomatic_lies]

Being at the bottom should be your biggest motivator for success.

First read "Awaken the Giant Within" (Anthony Robbins) to change your thinking.

Second actually do what the book says.

Third spend the ENTIRE WEEK, 10 hours every day, thinking over what goal you want to achieve in life. Write it down and pin it over your bed/computer/bedroom door. Read it every day.

Fourth, write a plan, STEP-BY-STEP on how you want to achieve that goal. Start from the BEGINNING. If you want to be rich, work out how to make $10 first, then $100, than $1K.


The MOST IMPORTANT thing is to actually do it. If you never take the FIRST STEP you won't make it.

 

[bob246]

thanks for the advice dude. My problem is that i find it hard to stay motivated everyday coz i know its such a long journey. Its like i want it all tomorrow. I really am finding it hard to stay motivated day in day out, and the thing im worried about is, what if i do all the hard work and dont get all i want? Thats my fear, doing all the work for nothing coz if you think about it i aint really 100% guaranteed to make it.

 

[Grey Fox]

Nothing worth having was ever easy. Part of being a DJ is to have lofty goals and struggle to accomplish them as best you can. In terms of motivation, what ever you plan to do, you have to want it for yourself.

-Grey Fox

 

[Caveman]

I agree with diplomatic_lies and Grey Fox.

You will not get anywhere unless you start. Don't be affraid that you will not get ALL you want. You won't. And you don't really want that either. Throughout your whole life, you will need to have goals to keep you going. If you get everything you want, you will get bored out of your brain. Think of life as a game where you have to continue to try to get to the next level. And love the journey, not the destination.

The key in getting success is to start seeing things in a positive light. Stop seeing the worst in everything. Think about what bothers you most about yourself and start there. You don't like the fact that you don't have a job? Go out and look for one. Once you have that job, work on your body.. start working out and stuff.

Take babysteps. Don't think you will be able to change overnight, but approach every problem at a time and work on it. Solving these problems one by one will make you happier about yourself, and you will stay focussed all the time and start working towards the next level.

Remember: Think positive and keep playing..

 

[backbreaker]

really, a lesson I learned in life is y ou can do anything if you have a freaking plan on how do do it, rather then just winging it. I plan everything now from dates, to my daily routine, to my meals to what I wear on certain days, to my goals.

I am fortuate to have good genes, am I am pretty good looking, but I wasn't where I wanted to be, and I still am not there. I just work harder and know that everyday I give my best, is a day I can mark off to being one step closer to my goals.

 

[bob246]

wow great advice from all of you, seriously thanks. caveman you definitly made me see it all in a new light, special thanks to you. each day i will work on my dream. i will get there. peace

 

[Caveman]

Good for you man!

Keep us posted.

 

[bob246]

yea i definitly will. if i ever feel im close to slacking off, i will read this thread.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Bob Cat, relax guy, you are only 17 - you didn't even start your journey to manhood yet!

One thing I can guarantee you - you will have greater stress, problems and struggles as you get older - enjoy the journey!

Take life as it comes - change things for ther better that you have the power to change. For the things that you cannot change do not worry about, it'll just add more unnecessary stress to your life!!!