The One Year Anniversary Thread

[bigneil]

Here's something you hardly hear mentioned here and something I have very little experience with - the one year anniversary of dating. I noticed a remarkable shift when you reach that point.

1) She perceives things as romantic that previously would have been missed.
2) She wants to cuddle (oxytocin or pair bonding chemical produced versus PEA love at first sight chemical).
3) She starts talking about having children together and the subject becomes a theme.
4) Her body is not the same (in some cases hotter but more often fatter).
5) She reminds you time is passing. At the one year anniversary it's probably best to settle down or leave her.

I wondered if any of you had experienced this and what else to expect.

 

[SgtSplacker]

The children thing is going to be a persistent theme. Eventually she is going to try to force you to marry her by acting like she is going to leave or something. She is going to want you to *** inside her. She's going to all of a sudden start acting like a total b i t c h at random because she figures you don't like her enough to marry her, it's going to start bothering her. Near the end she will think cheating on you is justified because you must not really like her, therefore the relationship is null and void so she is going to try to sneak in dates.

 

[bigneil]

What a scary concept - having children. No matter how non-jealous we were before, at some point her faithfulness (or lack thereof) becomes a factor. Then we have to either care or find someone else not to care about.

Equally scary is her fading beauty. It's amazing how quickly women age sometimes, and how a few extra pounds changes their look.

I suppose the two cancel eachother out in a way. My dad always said if you don't want competition, date a fat girl.

 

[pdx1138]

I'd like to hear more stories on this as well.

Good post Neil

 

[Atom Smasher]

Also, at just about exactly one year, you both discover just how bat sh!t crazy the other party is. Then the decision must be made if you can live with that or not. For me this always happens at exactly the 1 year mark. I can set my sun dial to it.

 

[Aristippus]

Atom,

You still use sun dials?

 

[donking]

These things usually happen at the 3 month mark for me.

 

[Desdinova]

I must be on an entirely different planet than you. I find that generally, nothing has changed with the fact that her IL has gone even higher. The only thing I'm finding is that she's mentioned living together a couple of times.

3) She starts talking about having children together and the subject becomes a theme.

All women do this. It's unavoidable. I had a vasectomy and my gf talks about having children one day, and living together (and even marriage) another day. Women can't help but talk about having children because it's in their nature. My gf knows she cannot have any with me, but the subject still comes up. Eventually, it may boil down to her being so attached and dependent on me that she'll give up on having children.

However, the last LTR I was in was a bit different. At 9 months, she was talking about moving in, marriage, and kids. I was worried about her getting the wrong impression from the approaching one-year anniversary, so I got rid of her. But she was 34, never married, no kids, so her desperation was tuned into her biological clock.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Atom,

You still use sun dials?

Indeed yes. Back in the day I used to get the Pharoah to all his beheadings right on time due to my advanced timepieces. As you know, nothing we have today even comes close!

 

[Mike32ct]

I'd like to hear more stories on this as well.

Good post Neil

^Second the motion. Good stuff to know.

 

[zekko]

Atom,
You still use sun dials?

Old people like Atom Smasher often have difficulty dealing with modern technology.

You should see his calendar - he has a replica of Stonehenge in his backyard.

 

[st_99]

4) Her body is not the same (in some cases hotter but more often fatter).

this seems to be the norm. women default to getting fat. men do to but our hormones keep the process at a slower rate, women blow up really fast if they dont care body image anymore.

so there you have it, LTR = fat girl.

 

[MrNiceGuy23]

I never understood why people gain weight in an LTR. Being comfortable in the relationship is a ****ty excuse. I don't see when people become content not looking attractive. I don't see myself ever being content overweight.