"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The One Thing I Keep Forgetting...

Desdinova

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A highly-interested and low-maintenance woman will make dating a piece of cake.

I'm looking back on that bytch I dumped over 3 months ago, and I can't believe how fvcking broken up I was over it. If you remember my post, it was the chick who wanted to take her single male friend to a fetish party, and I was doubting my decision to break up with her.

Whenever I cut a chick free from my life, I usually find a new one within a week. I met the new one the day after I cut contact with miss fetish party. We've been seeing each other for over 3 months now and other than some AFC posting romantic junk on her FB page (which I brought to her attention), there have been no problems. NOT ONE.

This chick is fun, sexy, feminine, and actually puts herself in situations which cater to my happiness. I'm having a huge back yard party this weekend, and she's been PESTERING ME to come over and help clean my house. So I had her over here, and she did a fantastic job. She's coming over before the party to do some touch-up cleaning and make some food for my guests.

SERIOUSLY. Why the fvck was I so broken up over the last one? She was a piece of trash compared to this chick.

This is how it's supposed to be. I'm not supposed to stress out over a woman's male orbiters. I'm not supposed to tell her I don't want to hear about her wild sex experiences. I'm not supposed to hear "I have to think about being exclusive". A quality chick will make everything easy.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Kailex

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You were broken up at the time because she was your only option. I'm not saying: SPIN PLATES, SPIN PLATES, SPIN PLATES, BAH GAWD, SPINE PLATES.

I mean, I know you go into LTR's and approach them full on, so it's obvious you'd have one at the time, but as soon as another option enters into the fray, it seems like it's only a matter of time before you forget.

We don't always see things objectively while we are in the actual situation, so it's natural to feel that way immediately after. It's only with time, wisdom, and with other women do we realize that the rose-colored glasses aren't so rose-colored anymore.
 

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Dear Des,
Hmm....Sounds like she is really putting on a Show for you,danger Will Robinson,genuine?...only time will tell!
 

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Great post Des! It can't be said enough, there's always another potentially better one waiting just around the corner.

It's easy to forget that when we're feeling off our game. Regardless of experience in the game it happens to everyone.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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zekko

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Desdinova said:
A highly-interested and low-maintenance woman will make dating a piece of cake.
Sometimes that can be hard to remember. It's the mentality of "A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush". Not all old sayings are necessarily accurate.
 
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