"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The One Phrase That Stops Contrary Women in Their Tracks

Atom Smasher

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A few years ago I stumbled upon a phrase that completely shuts down an argumentative woman every time. I don't know yet why it works, but I think it somehow triggers the "daddy" response.

The phrase is this: "I absolutely do not accept that."

Whatever the point she is making when arguing, that phrase will silence her and she will listen to the next thing you have to say. Now, the main ingredient could be my personal style of delivery of this line, but I think the words somehow intrinsically resonate with women.

This works with women you don't really know, as well as girlfriends and I assume wives, although I've never been married. It works for me 100% of the time, for me at least. Somehow it snaps them back into reality.

I would like a royalty for each use of this phrase. I'll set up a PayPal account where those who use it can pay tribute to their Uncle Atom who just saved them untold misery. ;)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Very good post, I said something similar to a female years ago at work that snatched a piece of paper out of my hand, and after that i never had a problem out of her. In fact we became good friends!

Basically when you say this you are just communicating that you are of a higher authority than her and will not accept derogatory behaviour which builds respect and sets the tone and baseline for future communication.
 

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Very good post, I said something similar to a female years ago at work that snatched a piece of paper out of my hand, and after that i never had a problem out of her. In fact we became good friends!

Basically when you say this you are just communicating that you are of a higher authority than her and will not accept derogatory behaviour which builds respect and sets the tone and baseline for future communication.
Well articulated.
 
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