The one I thought that walked away..

[needexc]

Hey guys It´s been a long while since I checked here.


I have no problems with dating and meeting new women, but I got something new going on for me and wanted to hear some feedback from you guys.


3 years ago there was this VERY hot blonde I used to date for like 2 weeks, this other girl (who is a sister of a good friend of mine) kinda ruined it for me telling her i use and deal drugs AND hit women (none of that is true) She was jealous ofcourse.. for that reason she just did not trust me and said it would be better for us to take seperate paths. That hurt a little and it always bothered me.


Now frickin 2 days ago I got a message from her asking me how I am and telling me she is sorry for judging me so fast all those years ago .. she been text bombing me since the last 2 days now.


Dont get me wrong I really would like to hook up with her again since she really is a fair girl and looks extremely sexy.



I´m not giving her full attention since she has to hunt for me now..


what do you guys advice me, play it cool and hook up with her? Or is that a no no since she already shot her chance? What is wisdom...


She gets me a little more then other girls to be very honest.

 

[cfdagola]

you've gone no contact for 3 years?

i'd say just escalate as if she's a new prospect put everything in your past behind you don't even mention it. 3 years is more than enough time to grow and mature even if you guys were dating.

proof positive that if the break up is handled correctly and you move on and do your own thing accordingly. anything can happen.

wish i did that with my ex who i was best friends with for 6 years. we decided to date. it ended when our relationship went long distance i should have kept my cool. but i acted super beta/stalkerish and she ran for the hills never to be seen again. that was back in 2002. Man i screwed that ALL up.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Now there are 3 basic options that you have:

1. You stay NC or tell her etc. Just anything to get her off your back.
2. You can make it as a f-buddy/fwb/ons/sex-and-gtfo
3. You can commit a little more and start a relationship.

Now of course there could be the prospect of abusing her with a mindset so alpha that it becomes sadistically evil, but she didn't ruin your life or anything so there's no real need for that.......

Honestly, if you don't got too much happening in your life right now and you can easily handle this, I would say to go for it. See how she is like and keep the mindset of everything working around your personal schedule. I mean, if you like her then you like her. If you don't, you don't.

I'd say to go for it.

 

[needexc]

Alright awesome feedback, to be honest i'm getting a bit sick of one night stands and club slvts.. always such a hassle to guide them to the front door the morning after, not being a ****)

I just wasn't sure this would work out since she didn't trust me 3 years ago.. but yea, it doese make sense what's being told here.

Yea I went no contact as in I forgot about her hehehhh...
At the time there was no hope of fixing the no trust issue so I just went on (it hurt yes, mostly because back then i was hormone pumped and maaaaannn dat booty).

As for now her timing could not be better, since im making a transition in what I want. A woman that supports me in every way and has a decent job/mind/wallet of her own.


Cfdagola; yea stuff like that can hurt, but hey, you did learn from it though . I had to take some heavy shots before I learned anyway...