"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The "One" DOES Exist!

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Over the years, I’ve seen much written on this forum about the elusive “One”. Some have even claimed that the “One” does not even exist, that it’s a figment of our so-called "AFC" imaginations. While such claims are well intended, they are not completely true if viewed from a slightly different perspective.

You see, I’m sure that in your journey towards bettering your interactions with women, you’ve still secretly waited and hoped for the “One” to come along and end all of your pain and frustration.

As a veteran here, I can guarantee that your noble quest for the "One" is not in vain. However, discovering the "One" is ultimately something you will have to figure out, learn and accept for yourself. You're not going to find the "One" by reading the DJ Bible a hundred times.

Nevertheless be of good cheer, because…

THE “ONE” DOES EXIST.

Yes, men. The “One” DOES exist.

You see him every time you look in the mirror.

That girl you’ve been obsessing over is NOT the “One”. You are.

YOU are what you’ve been hoping, dreaming and aspiring for.

Once you realize and accept this, “Oneitis” immediately becomes a good thing to have, doesn’t it?

And you know that pedestal that God gave you? Guess what? He intended for YOU to stand on it.

Not her. Not anyone else. You.

Take a good look in the mirror. There’s a reason you don’t like what you see.

Its because the “One” has been ignored, mistreated, and neglected by you. Right now he’s not too pleasing to look at. But he’s still the “One”. And behind all of those imperfections that you see reflected through that mirror, lies that perfect “10” that creeps in and out of your dreams. Your task is to redefine him such that he reflects what you want to see.

You cannot choose another “One”. Trying to do that is what got you in this mess in the first place. He’s all you got. And he’s all you will ever have.

Was it not you who said, “If I could just find the ‘One’, I’d be forever happy and all would be right with the world.”?

Well here’s your chance. Supplicate to the “One” like you always wanted to.

Treat him to a better body, mind and spirit.

Mobilize your comfort zone so that he’ll have a chance to shine.

If you don’t demonstrate admiration and respect for him, no one else will.

The “One” is the most important person in your life.

Act like it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sex Ninja

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Very true and very eye opening, nice post survivor
 

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Good job man.. like he said, you are the only thing that you truely have in the world.. it doesn't take a genius to figure out it's important to take care of your self physically, mental and emotional and what have you..
 
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this stuff is better than what you find

this stuff is better than what you find for sale on doclove, doubleyourdating, SS, alt.seduction, etc etc etc
sometimes I think that these guys make a quick buck with sites like this one
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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This is an outstanding post! We all need to keep this in mind at all times! YOU are the ONE! Way to go Survivor!
 

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What narcisstic bullcrap. I love it.
 

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I always thought that self-love and self-awareness come first in the world of seduction...but this post took my by complete suprise!

Very refreshing, and an interesting view to spin off of "the one" as talked about on this site.

Great post!!

Mr. Mystery
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Capitol39

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Beautiful post!! I have tears in my eyes!!!
 
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Looking out for # 1

This is may be gonna sound redundant but if someone could get the book "Looking out for # 1" by Robert Ringer, you'll find the same written there.
Mindblowing stuff .....way to go Survivor
 

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bump
 

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I see your bump, and raise you a bump.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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2 thumbs up Survivor!

good job on this post.. definitely a morale booster :)
 

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wow...wow....<still in awe> :-O :-D :)
 

djbr

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Bump again cause this post rocks supreme, and complements nicely the new one from Survivor (here!)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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