THE ONE ------ Could it be? Or am i just deemed to FAILURE

[thursday]

This is my first post but i have been looking at and using this website for a long time, so please dont call me a newbie! Cos' i've had a lot of success in my life with women, i dont consider myself a really attractive guy, but not ugly or unnattractive either. I'm probably about a 6.5/7 out of 10 in looks.
What made me register was a really big problem that i have encountered.

Back in the summer i met a girl and right away we got on, all the signs were good. I would say she had good interest in me. But we connected on a level i never thought possible. I'm pretty sure she felt it too! So all was good but we just started to drift away from eachother. This was after we'd been out a few times.
I think it was cos i had failed to make a move. AFC! I know. But she was different. I mean this. I didnt put her on the pedestal, we just shared a different kind of relationship that wasnt quite friends and not quite girlfriend/boyfriend. Anyway, after only talking from time to time, i got really pissed off and decided to write her an email, telling her what i thought! Here's a summary of what i said:

- Why do you give your time to people who you call *******s when we both know theres some kind of different connection between us and when you say you take measures to avoid *******s and here is a guy right in front of you who you connect with on a level you always wanted to with someone.

- How im not trying to compete with her friends or any part of her life, because if we got to spend more time together it would not be like any other kind of relationship and she knows it.

I know what your all thinking but it could have worked. Shes on my msn list but i have her blocked most of the time cos i dont want her to think im too keen. But the day after i sent that email, her screen name kept changing to all these german phrases which translated mean: "we can be and have everything we want, and the world will not interfere, but right now i am with them" as well as...

"ive waited far too long, for you to be mine, so be mine"

(i know a good bit of german and she knows i do )

Anyway, ALSO in her profile it says under perfect partner basically everything i am... oh plus one time we were out she got really close and also said that im the sort of guy she'd go for. As well as her saying for me to ask about our relationship when she was drunk sometime so she'd be open and honest. (this was when she was giving mixed signals and i basically came out and told her i didnt think her intentions were the same as mine)

so maybe i am misjudeging all these signs, but maybe not.
Point is she still hasnt replied. However she did email me earlier on in the week to tell me she will and that she just wants to find the right words and not leave anything out rather than writing something half baked, but she still hasnt and a week has gone by since i sent my email! And 4/5 days since she sent me that email.

So your all probably gonna think im the worlds biggest AFC but i wouldnt act like that with any old person. The reaosn why i sent the email like this was cos' i suspected she feels/ or at least felt the same and that being honest would mean she didnt have to hold back anymore, after all i gave her very little sign that i was interested. What do you think i should do?

Should i ask her whats taking so long or wait it out?
From all ive told you, what do you think her response will be?
Please dont flame guys!

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

You should not have sent that e-mail, blocking her is kinda stupid too.

The level of connection you felt is hard for any of us to perceive or understand because those kind of connections differ from person to person. I know once in my life I felt a really special connection with a girl. This connection was so perfect that we would go shopping in a grosserystore and we could just with sounds or looks or generally being close know what eachother wanted and liked. We generally were ONE when we were together but this was not a GF connection nor a friend relation it is a soulmate connection. Everything between us was a 100% perfect click and match but that little thing you need for it to feel like you want someone as a partner was not there for either of us but for eachother we were perfect. We are bestfriends and can talk about anything and everything and it's great =) I don't see her that much anymore though since she met someone and moved inn with him but before that we would share eachothers friendship in bed (No sex, just sleeping together), we would be with eachother, we would talk with eachother all the time and find comfort and confidence in eachother. To me that is better than any GF ever could be.

I'm not saying it's like that for you but it's something to think about =) If you don't believe it's like that, let her come to you, let her take contact.

 

[thursday]

i wouldnt say it was that level of connection because there definatly feels as if a physical relationship is possible, but that the mental aspect is very strong too. More advice appreciated

 

[OpenMind]

Use the bottom line factor to cut through all this bvllshyt.. I hate to break it to ya buddy but this woman isnt into you..... you need to focus on how she feels about you, and stop worrying about how you feel about her! if there was such a great connection and you are so great for her, THEN YOU WOULDNT HAVE TO TRY TO CONVICE HER OF THIS, SHE WOULD BE TRYING TO CONVINCE YOU WHY YOU THE TWO OF YOU SHOULD BE TOGETHER! Keep it simple and find another woman.... good luck!

 

[thursday]

please, more help..

 

[marcb80]

Why be immature and block her or cut off communication, just make the first move like you said in your first post. If she doesn't respond to the move, then look for someone else or go back to playing around.