the older I get, the more I realize it's not me

[backbreaker]

I just got off of the phone with my old oneitis, who flew in town to deal with her dead dog..

I just, for the first time realized that it is not me that has the problem, it's her.

She is truely a nutcase.

words can't describe how crazy and gone in the head she is.

thanks sosuave

 

[Bvbidd]

If it was never you why the hell did you need to come by this site in the first place why not just hook up with another chick? Probally cuz it was you.

 

[Bonhomme]

backbreaker did write his post in present tense

 

[squirrels]

Like attracts like. Hopefully you're realizing this now because you've grown past whatever attracted her into your life in the first place.

 

[BuckwildNYC]

If one chick is driving you up a wall then its probably her. If you are getting dumped and/or rejected time and time again then it's you, not them.

 

[Road Demon]

Backbreaker...I agree that it was NOT you, but her. I have had the same experience. I was dating 2 chick at the same time: One responds normal to life circumstances, the other one with low self esteem & baggage looks to creates drama. Guess which one I want...the hot LSE one.

I think we fall for them. Try to understand them, but they defy all normal logic running wild on their emotions at the time. We are attracted to the challenge to understand and tame her.

 

[comote]

You still have more to learn if you haven't learned to accept responsibility for your past, present, and future.

 

[jigga23]

road demon, that is very true. I dont get fvcked over or dumped by a girl with lSE because of me its them and their bs. it just took me a while to realize that. guess im growing up.

 

[JJMcLure]

Glad you finally "re-realized" it! I remember this saga and I remember you saying you got over this oneitis before. But if this is now just a case of just realizing she is a nut (and nothing to do with oneitis anymore), good on you. It's hard to believe sometimes that a person has e.g. a personality disorder, but when you get some distance it puts it into perspective and you realize it's true.

 

[Weak_Game]

the older I get, the more I realize it's not me.

amen...there is always room for growth on your part but in general... some girls are really messed up. Too emotional less logical.

 

[Bvbidd]

Kinda of sounds like what we all do when we never get laid and just blame the chicks though.

 

[backbreaker]

you have to have been here as long as I have to know the entire saga with this chick to understand fully what I am talking about.

I have no problem getting women. I honestly don't. However... it's hard to explain, you just have to know the entire story which I don't feel like explaining.

I guess it was, she was the FIRST to really reject me and because of that, my self esteem was low for a while, and I turned my life around, made money, started a company, and it was all never good enough for her.

I know she is a nut because it's the only possible way to explain her. She IS attracted to me to some extent, I've ****ed her! she dates a guy she think is gay (hell I think he's gay), her dad is a drunken abuser, her mom isn't much better, and she has low self esteem issues.

she's a nut... she's a nut that I am not wasting another second of my life on. NO friends, no anything.. I'm done.

She's hot as ****. BUT, there are women out there (not in arkansas, which is why I am moving partly, if I were in a bigger city I would have never had it for one woman this long) as hot as her that AREN'T crazy.

hell right now I am ****ing.... 2 with the distinct posibility of adding 3 more within the next 2 weeks. One an 18 year old who is cute as hell who I can tell likes me but I usualy don't do the younger girl thing. One is a blind date sorta thing that I have saturday night with a friend of mine, the girl is supposed to be lights out and I trust this guys taste, and one is a 23 year old I just met that I have a date with tomorrow night. That's not to count the woman that's twice my age that I see when I want and a 22 year old that If I had to settle down with anyone right now, it would be her.. Nice looking.

BUT, back to my point. I meet enought people, I know enough about myself and who Iam, to say that it's not me. What I mean by that is that, and hell she jus tmight not find me attractive, I'm not ****ed up about that, it is what it is, but I knwo that's not the case because I have done everything with her but put it in her ass, but to do it I have to withdraw attention like hell. when she comes back for good, in 2 weeks, and I ignore her, and give her the cold sholder, I promise you within a week and a half I would be ****ing her, just to get her attention back. We do this dance too much.

 

[backbreaker]

i swear to god I can't win for loosing.

So I am sitting here getting ready to do.. I really don't know what yet, but something, and I get a call from her. She just got pulled over, and she has a suspspended license from about a year ago and there is a warrant out for her arrest becuase of it (I told her hundreds of times, pay the damn 150 dollar fine and get it over with, but no, she's always too broke to pay it) she calls me, crying, and asks me what should she do. I'm like **** I don't know, go to jail?

So she is on her way to a holding cell I prusme.. first of all, why in the world does she call ME. SEcondly, is this the correct itme to say you know what.. **** it. I'm done, call your BF, the gay guy who you just love so damn much.

I mean, I wouldn't want to be left in jail, and I can bail her out if I had to, tha'ts not the problem.. the question is.. SHOULD I.

that's her again.. her bail is 500 bucks, which I know i will never get back.

I have a right mind to say **** it and **** her, call your BF...??

 

[backbreaker]

Should I or shouldn't i?

i swear to god I can't win for loosing.

So I am sitting here getting ready to do.. I really don't know what yet, but something, and I get a call from her (my old oneitis). She just got pulled over, and she has a suspspended license from about a year ago and there is a warrant out for her arrest becuase of it (I told her hundreds of times, pay the damn 150 dollar fine and get it over with, but no, she's always too broke to pay it) she calls me, crying, and asks me what should she do. I'm like **** I don't know, go to jail?

So she is on her way to a holding cell I prusme.. first of all, why in the world does she call ME. SEcondly, is this the correct itme to say you know what.. **** it. I'm done, call your BF, the gay guy who you just love so damn much.

I mean, I wouldn't want to be left in jail, and I can bail her out if I had to, tha'ts not the problem.. the question is.. SHOULD I.

that's her again.. her bail is 500 bucks, which I know i will never get back.

I have a right mind to say **** it and **** her, call your BF...??

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...I have a right mind to say **** it and **** her, call your BF...??

Here's a question for you; if you were dating someone else right now, would you bail her out?

Just curious.

 

[backbreaker]

Under the current circumstances, no. You just can't not talk to me for 3 months, call me one day, and the next day you are in jail and need bail money. Call the other people you have been talking to for the last 3 months.

I can be a little easy at times. I know her family is struggling, and I know why she called me first.. becuase I am the person she knows who least likely has no problem dropping 500 bucks to get her out of jail.

But then again, I have to remind myself, it's not my problem, and she put herself in this perdicument, not me. I kinda honeslty feel bad for not helping out, but I know I am doing the right thing by staying out of it. i feel bad becuase I know I CAN help, but I know if i did help, she would never appricate it, never pay me back, and then never have a reason to think that she cant get what she wants from who she wants just because she is good looking.

but to answer your question.. my ex gF of a year, if I was with another girl (seriously) right now and she called me and HONESTLY needed bail money, I would send it to her and wouldnt' think twice about it, and there is NOTHING there , but that's just becuase I know her, and Iknow she wouldn't ask for it unless she needed it, becuase I wouldn't be the first person she would come to, and we are still cool

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...but to answer your question.. my ex gF of a year, if I was with another girl (seriously) right now and she called me and HONESTLY needed bail money, I would send it to her and wouldnt' think twice about it, and there is NOTHING there , but that's just becuase I know her, and Iknow she wouldn't ask for it unless she needed it, becuase I wouldn't be the first person she would come to, and we are still cool

I should have also asked that if you would have bailed her out would you tell your existing girlfriend and if you would tell her, would you tell her before or after you bailed out your ex.

 

[backbreaker]

doesn't matter, yes I would tell my GF, and if she has a problem with it she can **** off. I don't go off blowing money on EX's or women in general, but I was damn near engaged to this woman, we ended on GREAT terms, and we just aren't like that anymore. If my GF has a problem with me helping a friend, she won't be my GF for very long. I mean, I understand what you are trying to get it, like if I kept going on dates with this chick and I am with someone, yeah, but no it's nothing like that.

However, I know my ex would appricate it, and i know my old oneitis wouldn't, I also know if I needed anything and my ex could help she would, without quesiton, and I also know without question that my oneitis wouldn't

 

[wayword]

She's hot as ****. BUT, there are women out there (not in arkansas, which is why I am moving partly, if I were in a bigger city I would have never had it for one woman this long) as hot as her that AREN'T crazy.

There are some DAMN FINE women in AR, but damn many be some scandalous cheating slvts. And, I think there's also a hella lotta STDs floating around there...

 

[DJDamage]

If the bail money is set at only $500 then let her parents pay for it. I am sure that they have that kind of money somewhere (after all she did fly over to town) and you best believe that she will show up to the court hearing or pay the fine on the spot because her parents would want their money back.

If you think about it this "test" is the perfect oppertuinty to get rid of her once and for all. If you don't come up with the bail money you will probably never hear from her again.

Good riddance I say.