The old campaigner: Loneliness

[TonyBaloney]

So here I am again gents with an uplifting subject to arouse your curiousity.

Its a subject close to my heart at the moment, as i presently feel the strains of solitude.

I have done some research into this, and its a fundamental human emotion, which can sometimes be difficult to crack.

I was just wondering if any of you guys sometimes are trying to meet girls, so as not to be alone, rather than for sex or a LTR/ FB (before we have the usual suspects spouting the usual pua alpha bull****, just fook off and dont comment on this one... )

 

[DonJuanabe]

While I am alone, and occasionally feel lonely, I want to meet a girl for an LTR, in large part because most of my friends are in LTR (married, GF, etc.) and I want companionship and everything that comes with it (sex, friend, etc.). In the meantime, if necessary, I'd pursue sex with a moderately attractive girl, but my goal is a relationship with a best friend I can't stop wanting to f*ck.

 

[Mike32ct]

While introverts have a greater tolerance for being alone than extroverts, I still get lonely sometimes despite being an introvert.

This will sound lame, but I don't necessarily "sarge" to get laid. (Although I'm open to breaking this two-year+ dry spell as soon as I can lol.). I go out to get out of the house and fight loneliness. On a good night, I might find an ok lady to talk to. Meeting someone new and having a decent chat is sometimes enough, even if it goes no farther.

Of course most nights there's nobody interested to talk to and some nasty rejections, so I end up going home feeling worse than when I left lol. But it goes with the territory.

My two good friends are married, and my one sibling lives in another state.

 

[alxrose04]

Loneliness I know a lot about. It's like you're in a world with a population of 1. And you want that companionship, just someone to be there so you don't have to feel like you're in a boat by yourself. I think everyone's gone through this and have gone out to meet women to fix that feeling, I know I have. I've found that that feeling comes and goes. There's nothing wrong with it. Perfectly natural. But I just keep telling myself that it comes and goes and it'll get better.

 

[blind_one]

In the meantime, if necessary, I'd pursue sex with a moderately attractive girl, but my goal is a relationship with a best friend I can't stop wanting to f*ck.

Nailed it 100%.

 

[juicywa]

it's an addiction.. I used to be okay with being alone playing video games all day, surfing the web, stuff like that. But ever since I discovered I could actually have fun interacting with girls, I crave for that feeling. And if I don't get it, the feeling of loneliness comes creeping in.

Hate it. I can't go back now. It's like oneitis.


My biggest problem now is I'm still confused as to what I really want.

I tell myself I want a gf, but when I get on that path I start sabotaging myself. I think "why should I settle with this girl" or "she's not the one, she's not good enough".

So I think I want a multiple gf plus fb's. But at the same time, I still have nice guy tendencies.. I dont want to be "hurt" the women. Maybe I just havent found the right women I'm looking for.

 

[BigSmooth]

I definitely understand what you are saying.

Especially in this society now, everyone lives in their own world. Ironically, even with all these new technologies and social networking sites and all that jazz, a lot of people are lonelier than ever.

It's harder to find people that actually give a damn about someone else now.


I guess it also depends on how old you are and what environment you are living in. But to me, a bar or a club is not usually somewhere I would go to find a girl who has the positive traits that I would want to be good friends with.

 

[drellum]

I have definitely felt lonelier in some LTR's than I have when I have been alone because of the state of the relationship.

I never go out to get laid.

I always go out with the attitude of having a good time. The night is an adventure....to go out with the intention of getting laid is often going to lead to disappointment.

Real loneliness is a horrible dark place.