JaegerPilot217
Master Don Juan
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agreed, the limit should be banned, lifted
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Moderating has some interesting dynamics attached to it. As a mod you of course are bound to enforce the rules, but you try to avoid heavy-handedness. For that, you get vilified for "not doing your job" by some members.Peaks&Valleys said:**** balls
^definitely need to unban the word "c0ck" at least
Also, yeah, lift the 10 post limit but just ban trolls and KJ's....you know, actually do some moderating. Seems like once a poster becomes a moderator they turn into a ghost. Also, it would be nice if you guys could come up with some kind of reading comprehension test or some $hit, something that would need to be passed before someone could start posting and arguing with someone simply because they don't know how to read.
I think this is right. Not only have I seen this in others, I have seen this in myself. When you have a 10 post limit it really helps de-escalate things.Espi said:In my opinion the post limit helps keep the flamers and trolls in check. Maybe raise it to 15. But no more than that.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.