The "non pickup" approach

[Infern0]

I've been having mucho success using this approach lately.

"Wherever your attention goes, your energy flows"

Last few months my attention has just been on me, improving me, working on me, making money for me etc etc.

Cold approaches = ZERO

When I go out I just go out to have a good time man.

Anyway, have had a very good number of lays in the last 2 months, had girls initiate etc

Also made great progress in the gym, work, bank balance etc. My attitude is girls are all good but I'm not going to make an effort chasing them they can come to me.

 

[skinnyguy]

Cold approach has an opportunity cost. You could be using that time to make money or go work out.

Lots of guys on this board seem to be failing at cold approach. Maybe it's just creepy.

 

[Infern0]

Cold approach has an opportunity cost. You could be using that time to make money or go work out.

Lots of guys on this board seem to be failing at cold approach. Maybe it's just creepy.

Cold approach is just a numbers game, there's no skill involved. Just spam it until you find a girl loose enough who has high enough interest, that's it.

Its boring imo

 

[mrgoodstuff]

It's more useful if you are able to observe who showed you additional interest and approach those. Don't do one who is ignoring you, but if you notice her double double takes or checking you out, say something.

 

[RangerMIke]

Cold approach is not a technique, process, or method... it's just what happens when you are out and about.

Just go live your life and meet women as you do stuff. I never go out with the intent that I'm trying to meet women, that IMO is silly, and you it does make you look creepy.

Just yesterday I met a woman at an International Trade event... she was a guest speaker at the event and I thought she was smart and attractive, after the event I introduced myself and invited her out, we have a date next Tuesday. Just make this part of your personality and it's easy. Don't work at it, just do it. For every success like this I have about 3 more that turn me down, married, in relationships, lesbian, I just don't turn her on.... any number of reasons, but at best you'll get a 25% success rate, and it's 50-50 getting these women who go out into bed.

The key to being good at cold approach is to make talking to strangers part of your personality. Just talk to EVERYONE, and be friendly to EVERYONE. Treat all women the same, hot or not it shouldn't matter, because you have to get in the habit of being comfortable talking to women you are attracted to.... otherwise you come off as needy and weak.

Second be prepared, but don't expect anything. Always assume you may meet someone you are interested in when you are doing stuff and dress and show-up for success. But the purpose of you being out and about is to do stuff, not meet women. Meeting women is just what happens... you can not help it.

 

[Visionist]

Very true RangerMike; I did a whole weekend of cold approaches many years ago and the rejections came thick and fast, but eventually I stayed in-set longer and longer until I number closed two girls after around 45 minutes in-set. It felt good but since then I've not really done it; I had one day whilst travelling internationally where I approached many women, not really expecting anything and above all being direct; they were hot and I described their hotness in seductive, poetic language and they mostly loved it. Felt good although I didn't get anything back. The better your previous approach, the better still your next one; you're pre-selected for success basically, and your confidence is increasing exponentially.

Be direct, be creative and poetic with your language, use exotic imagery. It's cheesy and they love it.