"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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"the next generation of online dating"

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Maxtro

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Meh, I can see this working for women. Never mind the fact that everything would work for a woman.

The same effect can be achieved by writing her number on a napkin and it doesn't cost her $25 a month to do so.

If a guy tried this...yeah, good luck.
 

Plinco

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This would probably never work for people under 30 years old.
 

taiyuu_otoko

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sounds to me like this is going backwards. first you meet online, then you meet in the real world.

The seeming demographic is for people who don't have strong approach game, so they can set some rapport online, then maybe talk on the phone, and then meet up in real life.

But this way, you approach a stranger in the real world, and then meet up online?

I don't get it.

Why not just go to vistaprint.com, print up a thousand or so cards, and write something along the lines of:

Hi, my names Taiyuu. I think you're cute, and I'm interested if you have a cute personality to match. If you think you do, and you're interested in perhaps finding a wonderful relationship, give me a call.

xxx-xxxxx

Or better yet, just go to blogger.com, make an interesting video/page of yourself and send them to your website.

After giving out 500 cards or so (which might cost you twenty bucks) you might not get any calls, but at least you'd be over your approach anxiety.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Dust 2 Dust

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"Users receive calling cards to dole out to alluring strangers they encounter in their everyday lives, be it in a club or in a subway on their morning commute. Recipients of the cards can use the identification code printed on them to log onto Cheekd.com and send a message to their admirer. A pack of 50 cards and a month’s subscription to Cheek’d, where users can receive messages and post information about themselves, is $25. There is no fee for those who receive cards to communicate with an admirer through the site."

The biggest problem with this approach is that it's based entirely on the numbers game without building any rapport before an attempted close. Ok, so you're supposed to cold approach women and hand them a card with a link to a website? Yeah, good luck with that (insert hillbilly laugh).

This sounds worse than the business card cold approach, but at least with the business card approach you're giving them your number up front. For every hunded cards you gave out you'd be lucky to have 1-2 women call you.
 

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I agree that the card thing would be lame for guys.

This part interested me, though: http://www.skout.com/

"the free iPhone dating application Skout, which recently surpassed its millionth member. Skout uses a cellphone’s global positioning system to help users to find like-minded people within a walkable radius of one another. (For safety reasons, Skout does not identify a user’s precise location.) Those who sign up for the application create basic profiles with photographs and then use an instant message feature to communicate when they are within range of each other. Then, they can arrange a mutual meeting spot. "
 
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