Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Don't worry man. This new fad will be over before you know it. And when it is over, all those guys will come back going, "Help! Injured my _____" or "Help! How do I lose all this fat?" or "Help! My bench is stuck at ____"wolf116 said:I just don't think it's a good idea to have newbies starting off with bad training principles when we have an excellent program under in the vault i.e. "where to start." We have a whole bunch of guys thinking this is going to be some quick fix. This guy isn't going to be around to help once his site fails, and everyone following his program will be lost and confused.
The fastest way to build work capacity for a strength training program is strength training.
I'm just sad to see EFFORT's program abandoned. When he helps modivated guys just because he wants to help, not because he's trying to attract people to he business.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Some people are so sensitive.i=tallion said:As much as I agree with you wolf...I also agree with Quik. It's getting guys in the gym. I hoping that these guys do stick in there for 15 weeks and make some progress. It's hard to motivate yourself sometimes so the herd mentality really helps these guys.
Yeah once they ask but no one cares about the dogma people try to force at them until they ask for it.People can be brought around to correct training principles and solid dieting once they've been under the barbell for a few months..
Yes it will. It is not an either/or proposition (mutual exclusion). It can do both at once. The question is the ratio.wolf116 said:if you have carbs in your stomach, your body won't be burning body-fat.
What is your reasoning?quiksilver said:Personally I think putting someone on a strength-oriented program in their first 6-8 weeks is silly anyways
Oh good, the board was getting boring lately.mrRuckus said:Some people are so sensitive.
Who cares if people get themselves to the gym or not and do the right things?
Why do you want to HELP people to do what they don't want to do? If they're not asking for it, why try to convince someone?
If you are a fat slob or a skinny weakling then it's up to you to do something about it. Why would anyone else want to swoop in and convince you that sucking is bad?
I just can't wrap my head around it because whenever i suck at something that matters i go and try to fix things. On my own. Without being a wuss. Even though i don't want to in the short term.