The never talk bad about people rule.

[BongDuy]

I read somewhere here that staying positive and not talking behind people's back is a good thing, since people will consider you friendly and trustworthy. im just wondering how far does this go?

Let's take this into example. Friend A is a huge liar. He lies about everything. You've known him for years, and he has told you millions of them, and that is why you are not very close friend Friend A.

Your friends in school/work talk about him. Do you mention how big of a liar he is? What if it could start a conversation? What if they ask you about him and his lies, since they are just meeting him and are confused about him.


Im just wondering how far does this rule go.

 

[nismo-4]

Reap what you sow.

 

[amoka]

Let them find out themselves. Only say positive things about your friend A to others. If they want to find out something negative about him, let them find out themselves. Always stay positive.

 

[Warrior74]

How about not saying anything at all about him? If you can't say anything nice, shut your pie hole. If they ask, don't you know him, you reply with yah I know him, and shut up. If they press, just tell em, we aren't that close and walk away. People will know how you feel just by that alone. You don't have to bad mouth the guy and you don't have to praise him.

 

[DJDamage]

I know of a guy that went to my school that if you get him liquered up, he will just talk sh1t about everyone and reveal their secrets they confidently told him including that of his close friends. Needless to say I stopped hanging around him because I suspected he does that same sh1t to me as well behind my back.

Leave the gossiping to the girls and their orbiters.

A good rule of thumb is that if you can't diss a person right to his face, you shouldn't say it behind their backs (especially when they aren't around to defend themselves).

 

[TizZle]

I'm a culprit of doing this sh1t sometimes. It's not cool. It's part of my personality i'm working on fixing.

 

[hansol]

If someone is a "friend", you don't say anything bad about them to anyone. Otherwise why have them as a friend?

 

[Allurre]

If the guy's a liar, DO point it out.

Just don't go on for days complaining and talking smack behind another person's back.

 

[joedmango]

Less talk Less Mistakes. Anyway its just something that is not too important and no big issues, Unless your Friend A Cause you big trouble, Then tell them who really he is and dont believe in him.. Well If not No need to divulge your Friend A's Bad Traits Anyway he shouldn't be condemn for that.

 

[MascaraSnake]

Gossip is a disgusting thing. To be sociable, I was never opposed to listening (and maybe dropping the occasional comment or two), but I never contributed anything to the conversation unless it was some kind of constructive criticism.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

If you got nothing nice to say... Dont say anything at all.

 

[SleepyRangerMedic82D]

I personally am a believer of telling it like it is.. But not when it comes to friends I truly care about or people I like chillin with. But yeah generally if you don't have anything nice to say about someone I wouldn't say anything at all..

Everyone gossips though.. EVERYONE!!!!