"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The neg is dead soon.

HalfAddict

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The Neg

It's happy hour and a guy you've been eyeing at the bar walks up to you and coyly says, "That black top is very sexy." He pauses, then adds, "It would look much better if it was gold."

Damage control: Sometimes it's hard to know if someone's being rude or if they've just been watching too many episodes of the "Pick Up Artist." Either way, walk away!


Thanks to that **** show another tactic wisped away.

http://body.aol.com/healthy-living/relationships/mixed-signals?icid=100214839x1201799803x1200070545
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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LostAndConfused

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I don't see how that would stop a girl from having a well used neg on her.

I guarantee you if you used it right the first thing that pops up in her mind would NOT be that article. Rather you'd get her attention and interest for making such a comment.
 

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I never NEG anymore...its just gay and rarely works...it doesnt work and down to earth cool chicks..they'll just hate you.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I'm the same as HalfAddict in his above post. I don't neg I tease. It's like almost a part of my personality.

It's funny how everytime an artilce like this comes up people start to freak out :p What's the chance that if you 'neg' someone they will call you out? How many women have actually watched the pickup artist? How many women would have read that article? I think it is a small number and the likelyhoo that you will get blown out is very small, and if you do it's probably more to do with you not having enough 'game' or knowing how to neg properly.

If an attractive man negs a girl is she going to run away? I know naturals who neg who have never heard of the term. No one should worry about getting caught out unless they are using routines found in The Game or something. The community as a whole is turning to natural game in any case. Girls better watch out for any cool guys! They just might be pick up artists :0
 

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here only, i come to realise a fact that if you are going to be a pick-up artist, you got to be a very good actor. most negs or c/f stuff don't work because the delivery isn't good.

I think..

negs should be like you care for the girl but somewhat she is not coming up to the standards.

c/f stuff should like you care for the girl but just is being a bit naughty with her.

"you look dead" in a straight face is different from "you know you look like a celebrity in that dress.. let me think, oh ya, her name is ms. vampire" with a cheeky smile.

give it a thought, guys.
 

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If the only tool you own is a hammer, all your problems start to look like nails. In some instances Negs are the wrong tool for the job, in others they work well. Negs are an art and most guys don't have the patience to learn that art so they discount the tool and look for other techniques. Just remember Negs are only one tool of MANY that a DJ should have at his disposal.
 

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Rollo Tomassi said:
If the only tool you own is a hammer, all your problems start to look like nails. In some instances Negs are the wrong tool for the job, in others they work well. Negs are an art and most guys don't have the patience to learn that art so they discount the tool and look for other techniques. Just remember Negs are only one tool of MANY that a DJ should have at his disposal.
This is very true, and it also goes along with what SinJester mentioned about his Natural friends. If you understand neg theory, then you understand HOW to use it and, more importantly, WHY you use it.

The analogy of DJ techniques as tools is quite effective and one that I've used before in discussions with other members. I used to work as a framing carpenter years ago, and I had my work bags filled with everything from chisels to chalk lines. In the course of an average day, I would use EVERY TOOL I had with me. Sometimes, I would stop putting a certain tool in my bags because I didn't need it for that particular job.

The neg is just another tool as Rollo mentioned. However, I think most guys don't know how/when to use them effectively.

Concerning whether or not the "neg" is dead, I don't think so. Negs have always been around. They just hadn't been given a name until the community came along.

Side note: I saw that VH1 is sending out casting calls for a second season of The Pickup Artist.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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^^^I was kind of hoping that it wouldn't come back for another season. My prediction is that there are going to be guys out there who take peacock theory to a whole new level (and not in a good way). E.g. guys in bright print t-shirts with a necktie, a huge purple boa, and a big cowboy hat.

My second prediction: look for an influx of new members around the time the new season airs. Their internet searches will lead them here eventually. My two cents...
 
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Negs should be funny. That shyt was stupid. Try again.:down:
 
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