Mr Wright
Master Don Juan
This post is inspired by this thread. I think you guys need to learn about the nature of women because it's clearly frustrating you. Women are on a completely different schedule to us. Most of this is fact or well supported theory and actually quite easy to observe.
I'll bullet point it and keep it to the bare bones but if you need me to expand upon something I will take the time because it's a pretty complicated subject.
Understand a lot of this is unconscious on both the man and the woman's part.
Fundamentals you need to accept
Nature only serves to reproduce and survive
Despite the way we think, human beings are still susceptible to the laws of nature. We can fly to the moon, take the pill or whatever but eventually nature will catch up to us. This means all women care about biologically is rearing a strong, healthy child. Nature doesn't not care about your feelings, if you cry about it and become bitter you will not mate and your genes will eventually die out.
Human beings are between monogamy and polygamy
Whilst as men we desire multiple partners, women are better off having one primary partner, who will look after them. But you know how women get you to look after them? They basically threaten to/actually screw around, that way if you want to ensure the child is yours you will end up having to a lot of mate guarding(physically not letting her out of your sight or stick her in a burka), this drives you nuts. There is a lot of science surrounding this as well, men will ejaculate more semen if their wife has been away all day compared to if she was with him. Sperm competition.
We are designed to deceive
I'm sure at some point we've all told someone close to us a bare faced lie. By nature we are designed to screw around on the side because nature decided that's was the best way for us to mate, which had the strongest reproduction and survival value. Don't forget it's all about strong well fed babies. Polygamy is rare because you had to counteract jealous but simply cheating and covering it up is so much easier.
Men "fall in love" much faster than women
Nature needs men to fall in love quickly before he just pumps and dumps the chick leaving a baby that will end up dying in the cold. So the man gets emotionally invest quickly after a lot of good sex, whilst the women are glad he sticks around because he provides resources, shelter and protein. This probably explains why on the forum you can tell a man is soooo much more invested than she is at this stage, you have to keep your emotions in check.
Women are biologically adapted to have affairs
This was something that was tough to swallow, like dry swallowing a walnut but the evidence strongly suggests this to be true.
- Women have concealed ovulation: This means they do not know when they are most fertile, however, you can usually tells in their actions. They get really horny and start banging dudes
- Orgasms hold the key: A woman who orgasms a minute before or after her partner ejaculates is much more likely to get pregnant, this means she has to be turned on a lot.
- The link between the previous two points: Whilst ovulating women desire a man who is "different" from their long term partner, they end up sleeping with a guy who really turns them on and are thus more likely to orgasm at the right time and end up being pregnant by him. A quote that stuck with me went something like "women know that instinctively men know that if they are not orgasming they are unlikely to become pregnant, which is why they spend a lot of time faking them, so the men stick around." You wondered why you give a sh!t about being a "stud" in bed and making a woman come, there's your answer.
Women know that some men cannot be tamed
I said this in a post the other day and I will say it again. The man a woman marries is usually not the best man out there but the one that is most likely to stick around. In other words, she wants your resources, not necessarily your kid. Let's go back to the nature issue, nature does not give a crap about what you think, men have been getting cuckolded for centuries and are having their genes wiped out. A woman knows that getting pregnant by the men who will not stay is pointless because the child will suffer but if she could just find a guy who she could pull the wool over his eyes, she'll be fine. So she starts seeing a guy, doesn't sleep with him so that he thinks that she's a good girl who doesn't give it up...and I'm sure you can guess the rest. Sucker punch. Ideally she'd love to tame the other guy(hence why women love trying to get bad boys in relationships) but eventually he'll leave and she learns that whilst shes young.
If you do not believe this...
Just think about how long men have been trying to repress women's sexuality in order for it to become difficult for them to stray. We've had religion, abandoning, female circumcision, virginity checks and even stoning to death. Men are terrified of women because unless you're with them 24 hours a day, you cannot be sure.
It took me a while but I've come to piece with all this because despite the facts, this is what could happen, not what will happen, if you don't act like a little chump, a woman has no reason to stray because she will value your genes. You have been warned, if you have no reproductive value, forget it.
It is more complicated and details have been left out but this is the 101 lesson. It's something to be wary about rather than obsess over.
I'll bullet point it and keep it to the bare bones but if you need me to expand upon something I will take the time because it's a pretty complicated subject.
Understand a lot of this is unconscious on both the man and the woman's part.
Fundamentals you need to accept
Nature only serves to reproduce and survive
Despite the way we think, human beings are still susceptible to the laws of nature. We can fly to the moon, take the pill or whatever but eventually nature will catch up to us. This means all women care about biologically is rearing a strong, healthy child. Nature doesn't not care about your feelings, if you cry about it and become bitter you will not mate and your genes will eventually die out.
Human beings are between monogamy and polygamy
Whilst as men we desire multiple partners, women are better off having one primary partner, who will look after them. But you know how women get you to look after them? They basically threaten to/actually screw around, that way if you want to ensure the child is yours you will end up having to a lot of mate guarding(physically not letting her out of your sight or stick her in a burka), this drives you nuts. There is a lot of science surrounding this as well, men will ejaculate more semen if their wife has been away all day compared to if she was with him. Sperm competition.
We are designed to deceive
I'm sure at some point we've all told someone close to us a bare faced lie. By nature we are designed to screw around on the side because nature decided that's was the best way for us to mate, which had the strongest reproduction and survival value. Don't forget it's all about strong well fed babies. Polygamy is rare because you had to counteract jealous but simply cheating and covering it up is so much easier.
Men "fall in love" much faster than women
Nature needs men to fall in love quickly before he just pumps and dumps the chick leaving a baby that will end up dying in the cold. So the man gets emotionally invest quickly after a lot of good sex, whilst the women are glad he sticks around because he provides resources, shelter and protein. This probably explains why on the forum you can tell a man is soooo much more invested than she is at this stage, you have to keep your emotions in check.
Women are biologically adapted to have affairs
This was something that was tough to swallow, like dry swallowing a walnut but the evidence strongly suggests this to be true.
- Women have concealed ovulation: This means they do not know when they are most fertile, however, you can usually tells in their actions. They get really horny and start banging dudes
- Orgasms hold the key: A woman who orgasms a minute before or after her partner ejaculates is much more likely to get pregnant, this means she has to be turned on a lot.
- The link between the previous two points: Whilst ovulating women desire a man who is "different" from their long term partner, they end up sleeping with a guy who really turns them on and are thus more likely to orgasm at the right time and end up being pregnant by him. A quote that stuck with me went something like "women know that instinctively men know that if they are not orgasming they are unlikely to become pregnant, which is why they spend a lot of time faking them, so the men stick around." You wondered why you give a sh!t about being a "stud" in bed and making a woman come, there's your answer.
Women know that some men cannot be tamed
I said this in a post the other day and I will say it again. The man a woman marries is usually not the best man out there but the one that is most likely to stick around. In other words, she wants your resources, not necessarily your kid. Let's go back to the nature issue, nature does not give a crap about what you think, men have been getting cuckolded for centuries and are having their genes wiped out. A woman knows that getting pregnant by the men who will not stay is pointless because the child will suffer but if she could just find a guy who she could pull the wool over his eyes, she'll be fine. So she starts seeing a guy, doesn't sleep with him so that he thinks that she's a good girl who doesn't give it up...and I'm sure you can guess the rest. Sucker punch. Ideally she'd love to tame the other guy(hence why women love trying to get bad boys in relationships) but eventually he'll leave and she learns that whilst shes young.
If you do not believe this...
Just think about how long men have been trying to repress women's sexuality in order for it to become difficult for them to stray. We've had religion, abandoning, female circumcision, virginity checks and even stoning to death. Men are terrified of women because unless you're with them 24 hours a day, you cannot be sure.
It took me a while but I've come to piece with all this because despite the facts, this is what could happen, not what will happen, if you don't act like a little chump, a woman has no reason to stray because she will value your genes. You have been warned, if you have no reproductive value, forget it.
It is more complicated and details have been left out but this is the 101 lesson. It's something to be wary about rather than obsess over.
