"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The Nature of the Genders

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This is an analogical framework that I use to understand what it means to be a man, and what it means to be a woman. This post will be long, so if you are one of those pvssy b1tches who hasn't the cognitive prowess to read and comprehend large volumes of information, then I suggest you fvck off and don't waste anyone's time posting your dumbass "I didn't read all that crap but I'm going to vomit my opinion out anyway" replies.

It begins, with a rock, and some water.

I like to picture a beach near a cliff face, with pillars of rock sticking up through the surface of the crashing waves.

A man is a rock. Women are water.

Water

Water is 100% connected to other water. If some water moves, other water will move as a direct consequence. Water rises and falls on the movements of other water. There are currents and waves, big and small, strong and weak, all connected, always changing, always flowing and moving. If something falls into the water, it reacts, and causes a ripple. The ripple spreads through all the water until it is diffused.

No woman is disconnected from other women. All women are connected. When something causes a ripple in one woman, she spreads it onto other women until the effect is no longer felt. This is the nature of female communication: to connect and share and dissipate emotion. One woman gets upset, so she talks to her friends about her feelings. They don't attempt to fix the problem, for this is not the nature of water. Instead, they react emotionally, and in doing so, relieve the first woman of the effects of her emotion as it spreads. For a woman, communication is nothing more than emotional transference, either to give or to recieve (or both). This is why women can feel better after talking to other girls about their emotions and having their friends simply nod and sympathise (share emotions) with them. It diffuses the emotional energy by spreading.

In this same way, a "calm" woman can be stired up by the emotions of another woman. If one woman is very angry with someone, and shares this with her friend, then even if her friend has no problems with this other person, or even likes them, the friend will still start to get angry with them, simply because she is taking on the first woman's emotional energy.

Ever wondered why women gossip to each other so much behind their friend's backs? It's precisely because of their nature of water, to share and spread the emotional energy.

Women love drama because drama is the movement of water. It is emotional energy. Like waves rising and crashing down. It's all very exciting for a woman. Until I understood that woman are water, I could never understand how any of them could bore each other to death chatting about the innane crap happening on Days Of Our Lives or whatever random soap opera they watched. But they weren't bored, they were loving all the emotional energy they were sharing. Very turbulent, and very enjoyable. And it makes sense when you understand how women are water.

They rise, they fall, they crash, they foam, they swell, they are calm, they are stormy, they are tidal. Women are water.

But men are pillars of rock.

The Weak Rock

A weak rock will be pulverized under the crashes of a woman's waves, reduced to dust and leaving little trace of the rock that once was there, forever forgotten. This is an AFC. A pile of powdered rock, floating around in the currents of the ocean, making no ripples, going entirely unnoticed, and barely distinguishable from the water it floats in. An AFC is not a woman, he is a broken man, being neither man nor women, merely dust: a hint of a man at the whims of the ocean.

But of the strong rocks, there are two kinds: the rough and jagged rocks, and the smooth and shiny rocks.

The Rough and Jagged Rock

The rough and jagged rocks are strong enough to withstand the crashes of a woman. At the height of her storm, he stands tall and proud. As much as she bashes against him, he maintains integrity.

He also causes ripples. Big ones. The waves crash and the water falls and all the water around him is affected. The bigger the rock, the bigger the ripples.

But the jagged rock is a jerk, and thus has a weakness. A rock that is jagged has crevices. Crevices can be filled with water (emotional energy). Water that can freeze, and split the rock in two. A jerk is actually a rock that is insecure. It's rough surface indicates a deeper weakness. An inability to deal with his own emotions. And it is his own emotions that threaten to destroy him. It is his own emotions that he cannot control, so he seeks desperately to control others. His rough and jagged surface is his attempt to control the waves that crash against him, fighting back against them.

A jerk is a challenge to water, the challenge to destroy him. It is drawn to him that it might weaken him. At the very least, the water seeks to smooth the surface of the rock, because that is what water ultimately desires. That is why women try to tame the jerk. But in attempting this, they risk destroying him, causing him to split, crashing into the water, and creating a mighty splash.

The Smooth Rock

A smooth rock is hard. Its face presents no flaws. No weaknesses. It is utterly aerodynamic. Water crashes against it, and even at the height of its storm, it flows smoothly off, leaving no trace. The rock stands tall and confident, smooth and refined, impenetrable and controlled. It cannot be destroyed, for there is no weakness into it. It does not fight against the water, it merely allows the water to fight against it, embracing it each time, and never being affected by it.

This is the essence of the DJ. This is the essence of the Real Man. This is what water desires more than anything. Not a jerk that can split and fights back against them. Not an AFC that is forgotten and floating in its currents. But a smooth pillar of rock that will stand against anything. Utterly confident. Utterly in control. Utterly unbreakable. Embracing their waves again and again.


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The main reason I'm sharing this analogy here is because of late I've been seeing a hell of a lot of jagged rocks running around here, doing what jagged rocks do: yelling, ranting, raving, arguing, attacking, fighting, hating. Basically being insecure and fearful of women, who they subconsciously realize have the power to destroy them.

But this is, in a way, fine, and exactly what we'd expect. When a pile of pulverized rock dust tries to reform itself as a strong rock, it will invariably be jagged and rough. Only withstanding countless waves can smooth the surface of a jagged rock.

But I have a problem with these jagged rocks blaming and hating the water for being the way they are. It is the nature of water to be water. If you were smashed to dust, then that is due to your failure to be the strong rock that is in your nature to be. I don't care if you were raised by your mother (water cannot form a rock, only dust). So was I. Be a man and get over it. A man sees what needs to be done, and he just does it.

If you are jagged and rough, then by fighting against the waves, all you will do is allow them to seep into your cracks. You must realize your shared destiny with the water, and allow the water to smooth your surface, rather than fight in a vain attempt to change the nature of water. You will be destroyed or you will be victorious, there are no other options.

So all this "woman are crap and sh1t and I fvcking hate the stupid horb1tch kunts" can just fvcking stop right here. Be a smooth rock, learn some self control, and stop trying to control others. Your emotions are meant to be contained within you and used for the purpose of evaluating value, not to be riden and allowed to control you. Stop being water. Be a man already.

Men don't b1tch, b1tches b1tch, that's why it's called b1tching. So stop your b1tching, b1tches.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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VERY good! Couldn't have said it better myself! There has been alot of b!tching going on on this site lately. It's about time someone put the game back in the proper perspective. Kudos, Mortukai.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Brilliant.

One benefit of all the recent pollution from jagged rocks on this site is they strengthen those of us that aspire to be smoother and harder rocks. As they regurgitate the common jagged views of youth and/or ignorance, we reaffirm our beliefs that coexistence and understanding of women is one goal of being a real man. You need some level of earned respect to accomplish this goal.

AFCs can choose for themselves which path to take. The one best travelled is usually not the easiest or fastest.
 

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
A standing "O" :crackup:
I'll raise you a multiple "O"


Very good post Mortukai. It resonates with our intuitive sense of what's true.

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1) You have to immediately question the validity of any analogy that Francisco, and Justlikecandy stand and applaud.

2)Why are we "bytches" just because we tell the truth about women? Your little name calling tantrum kind of makes you sound like a bytch...BYTCH.

3)You must have a lot of time on your hands to come up with such a detailed analogy, as flawed as it might be.

4) Amidst all the standing ovations, let me be the voice of reason. Any first year Geology student knows that "smooth" rocks are not indestructable. They eventually wither away the same as any other rock. "Water" has a way of doing that to most things over time. One could also make the analogy that a "smooth" rock is nothing more than a "jagged" rock that has been battered too many times by water. Therefore losing its "edge"

Like I've said many times; Let these so called "DJ's" keep expounding on the virtues of chivalry, and how we should just be this pillar of strength and not let women bother us. One day they're going to realize that most women don't care about that stuff, and when they get accused of something they didn't do, or lose their kids in a custody battle to their wives simply because she's female, perhaps they'll have a different perspective.

We're not just talking about dating techniques. The free reign we've given women in this society is ridiculous. Women know the political and social power they possess, and use it to their full advantage. If we don't say something, it'll just keep going.
 

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Does your hatred of women stem from something your mother has done? Or, let me guess, you have been mistreated by a woman and you are bitter. Don't take your frustrations with the few women you have come across out on an entire gender. I guess you assume all women are the same...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
Does your hatred of women stem from something your mother has done? Or, let me guess, you have been mistreated by a woman and you are bitter. Don't take your frustrations with the few women you have come across out on an entire gender. I guess you assume all women are the same...
Who said I hate women? Must I hate women just because I speak the truth about them? Or are you just pissed off that some men know the game most of you play, and have turned it against you?

I've had mostly favorable relationships with women, that doesn't mean I'm blind and don't know what the real scoop is. When most women start acting like ladies, they'll be treated as such. You want to act like manipulative cvnts, you'll be treated like that also..

I never said all women are bad, but let's not act like there isn't a problem either.
 

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Originally posted by jprjrjr
4) Amidst all the standing ovations, let me be the voice of reason. Any first year Geology student knows that "smooth" rocks are not indestructable. They eventually wither away the same as any other rock. "Water" has a way of doing that to most things over time. One could also make the analogy that a "smooth" rock is nothing more than a "jagged" rock that has been battered too many times by water. Therefore losing its "edge"
I think you do not understand the spirit of an analogy.

:rolleyes:
 

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Originally posted by TillTheEndOfTime
I think you do not understand the spirit of an analogy.

:rolleyes:
Hmmmm.....what "spirit" of his analogy am I not understanding?
 

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Amidst all the bullsh*t posts that have corrupted this forum of late, Mortukai has gone back to basics with an excellent post which explains what this site is supposed to be about. Well done Mortukai!

Too many people on this site of late are "The Rough and Jagged Rock" instead of being the "Smooth Rock".

I'm giving this post five stars. Best post I've read here in a long time...
 

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Originally posted by jprjrjr
Hmmmm.....what "spirit" of his analogy am I not understanding?
They are not meant to be taken literally, and do not necessarily follow the laws of science and mathematics. In fact, the better ones usually do not. The spirit of an analogy is to explain a complicated event or idea, in a simplified way (which is why they often do not follow scientific and mathematical laws).

When you bring up technicalities and the science behind erosion and rocks, you are ignoring the main purpose of the analogy.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I'm not ignoring anything, but if you're going to reference a science in your analogy, it should be valid. I'm just offering a different point of view. Some of you guys are like sheep. If someone posts something remotely intelligent or thoughtful, you jump on it likes it's the best thing since sliced bread.

Being a "jagged" rock might not be so bad.
 

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I'm not ignoring anything, but if you're going to reference science in your analogy, it should be valid. I'm just offering a different point of view. Some of you guys are like sheep. If someone posts something remotely intelligent or thoughtful, you jump on it like it's the best thing since sliced bread.

Being a "jagged" rock might not be so bad.
 

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Originally posted by jprjrjr
1) You have to immediately question the validity of any analogy that Francisco, and Justlikecandy stand and applaud.
Glad that I can still stress you out without even trying.... Ooops.... :crackup:
 

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A few things:

-GREAT post.

-The Analogy is not scientifically correct

-Spiritually, this post was incredibly wise

-If you marry a woman who divorces you and takes youre kids... its youre fault for marrying her. My parents knew eachother for a DECADE before they had children and were married. It takes that to really get to know someone

-Women fully deserve equal treatment. However, in most libral areas, they are not treated equally. They recieve BENIFITS for being female. This is wrong.

-Jpr is right, it is up to strong men to battle feminists in the social, economic, and political arenas.

-Candy, you are ****ing stupid for assuming Jpr hates women. It is obvious he loves women, but simply feels society has hoisted unfair responsibilities/power onto them.

I had more to say, but I forgot it?
 

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Each gender has pitfalls.

Alot of what goes on here relative to these boards are with and over attention hos. Decent guys get tangled up with these girls because of no other contacts in their 'social sphere'. So when one of these girls show interest, it's on, and the nice and decent guy thinks she is worthwhile and her knowing full well that she isn't his type or worthy of long term .. just likes the attention from a guy she found attractive. It creates a rift of resentment towards the AW. The guy is thinking she means what she does and says, but it is only for attention.

This becomes a vicious repetitive cycle from one AW to another.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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