It's useful to make a comparison between friendship and sexual relationships because, for most of us, no-one THINKS about having friends, they just do. Imagine SOSOCIAL.COM, a website dedicated to making friends with better, more interesting people! Yeah right. The guys who are naturally successful with women don't think about it, they just do; it's part of their nature.
Imagine if you suddenly decided to become a making-friends master! You'd go out onto the streets, start conversations with guys, learn "tecniques" and party tricks to get them to like you. Imagine, your first day as a Don-Amigo in training.
You spot a CG6 (Cool Guy 6).
You approach thinking about your battleplan.
You: hi! *sh!t eating grin*
CG6: *wierded out*
Eventually, you'd become a true Don Amigo, by learning how to get past tecniques and become natural. JUST LIKE YOU ARE NOW, IN THE REAL WORLD.
You don't TRY to make friends. You just have faith that friends will come to you, and this is from experience: that is how things work.
Now what about confidence, ****y and Funny, negging a b!tch to bring them down, being "in the moment", patience, humour... You would do all of these to potential friends, because you don't think about making friends with them. A natural DJ would do these to potential gfs, because he doesn't think about getting down with them!
When apes became humans, they were gifted with the ability to overcome their instinctual actions and decide for themselves what they wanted to do. But what about what we already know how to do in our instincts? What if we try to do something rationally, when our instincts are already MASTERS at it?
I came to this realisation when I read "Improve your eyesight without glasses" by WH Bates. It says that the reason for bad eyesight in almost all cases is strain in the eye because WE TRY TO SEE. The signals from the brain telling the eyes to "see harder" make the muscles strain and pull the eyeball out of shape. If we had never tried to see, we'd probably see perfectly.
It's not just, "if it aint broke don't fix it". If you try to fix what ain't broke, you break it. The more you try to fix it, the more it's broke. The only way to fix it is to stop trying to fix it.
So stop thinking about getting a girl altogether. Put DJ at the back of your mind, and get to work on living life. Think about it, no-one wants to be friends with a loser. No-one wants to be the gf of a loser. But when you were a kid getting a handle on life, you didn't stop being a loser to make friends, you did it because you wanted to live. That's what existance is about. Living.
(PS you may have actually have tried to make friends etc, but the point of this post is not to be waterproof, it's to get a point across. So spare me pointless protests if you can get what I'm saying).
Imagine if you suddenly decided to become a making-friends master! You'd go out onto the streets, start conversations with guys, learn "tecniques" and party tricks to get them to like you. Imagine, your first day as a Don-Amigo in training.
You spot a CG6 (Cool Guy 6).
You approach thinking about your battleplan.
You: hi! *sh!t eating grin*
CG6: *wierded out*
Eventually, you'd become a true Don Amigo, by learning how to get past tecniques and become natural. JUST LIKE YOU ARE NOW, IN THE REAL WORLD.
You don't TRY to make friends. You just have faith that friends will come to you, and this is from experience: that is how things work.
Now what about confidence, ****y and Funny, negging a b!tch to bring them down, being "in the moment", patience, humour... You would do all of these to potential friends, because you don't think about making friends with them. A natural DJ would do these to potential gfs, because he doesn't think about getting down with them!
When apes became humans, they were gifted with the ability to overcome their instinctual actions and decide for themselves what they wanted to do. But what about what we already know how to do in our instincts? What if we try to do something rationally, when our instincts are already MASTERS at it?
I came to this realisation when I read "Improve your eyesight without glasses" by WH Bates. It says that the reason for bad eyesight in almost all cases is strain in the eye because WE TRY TO SEE. The signals from the brain telling the eyes to "see harder" make the muscles strain and pull the eyeball out of shape. If we had never tried to see, we'd probably see perfectly.
It's not just, "if it aint broke don't fix it". If you try to fix what ain't broke, you break it. The more you try to fix it, the more it's broke. The only way to fix it is to stop trying to fix it.
So stop thinking about getting a girl altogether. Put DJ at the back of your mind, and get to work on living life. Think about it, no-one wants to be friends with a loser. No-one wants to be the gf of a loser. But when you were a kid getting a handle on life, you didn't stop being a loser to make friends, you did it because you wanted to live. That's what existance is about. Living.
(PS you may have actually have tried to make friends etc, but the point of this post is not to be waterproof, it's to get a point across. So spare me pointless protests if you can get what I'm saying).