Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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The myth of the single woman

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Latinoman said:
For a person that claim to be a deep thinker, you certainly are not the brightest.

No gray area. Many nations (especially in Africa) men are allowed to have multiple "wives". It is the way it is. We, as a society, cannot push our belief system to another culture or nation. That's the point I am trying to make.

There is NO gray area there. Society define our code of ethics. We define our own morals. And our parents/religious believes define our values.


There is not one "global" society. We live in America/UK/Australia/Canada. Our society is practically the same. But I wanted to make clear (for those outside our society) to understand that they might have a different code of ethics.
I will put my intelligence up against 95% of the population, but that is neither here nor there.

First you say it's an individual who determines "integrity", now it's society or religion, but the world has MANY different societies and religions so depending upon where you live or which god you choose to believe in, you may or may not have integrity?

"MY god is the only god, the moral code of MY god is to be ignored at your own peril!"

I grew up in a Lutheran family. The easy route would have been to choose the Lutheran path. But instead I used my INTELLIGENCE to realize that my parents and their parents and their parents before them MIGHT not have had it all figured out and were simply following blindly the generation before them out of default. I was taught that there was ONE way, then I get out into the real world and realize that there are 100's and 1000's of different "ways". Who is right? Well, I'm certainly not going to be naive enough to believe that my parents and a select few others have ALL of the answers and the rest of the world is wrong.

Who is right? Who is wrong? Who is "moral"? Who has integrity? Ask 100 different people and you will get 100 different answers.

No matter how you slice it, your absolutes don't fly.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Latinoman said:
Str8up...I think is time for you to start hanging out with men. It is pretty pathetic that you have to seek justification on a female friend. Come on dude...have some self-respect.
It was two men and one woman. I asked out of curiosity, NOT justification (I honestly expected a different reaction), and it just so happened that all three of us saw eye to eye.

And the other male who was present is as good with women and the ways of life as anyone on this site, that I can assure you of.
 

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I will put my intelligence up against 95% of the population
STR8UP...listen...let's do ourselves a favor. Save that b.s. for Keto. You should know by know that you can not fly that (and the "deep thinking" thing) by me.
 

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It was two men and one woman. I asked out of curiosity, NOT justification (I honestly expected a different reaction), and it just so happened that all three of us saw eye to eye.

And the other male who was present is as good with women and the ways of life as anyone on this site, that I can assure you of.
Which is exactly what I have been telling you about the kind of people you are associating yourself with.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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