There is a fallacy that is perpetuated on this forum that suggests that when a man meets a woman she should take him on a path straight to marriage.
Questionable "rules" such as the following emerge:
* If she doesn't return a single text along the way, that means low interest.
* If she has low interest, it can never be raised.
* If her interest level was high but goes down then it's over.
* If she has a boyfriend then it's over.
* If she ever chooses another man then it's over.
In other words, she should never say no and she should never resist you, or she's the wrong girl for you.
However, in the Art of Seduction it notes that a good target will ALWAYS resist you. Likewise, Louis/Copeland state that a successful seducer does not get upset when she says no - it's an inevitable part of every seduction. Looking back at the most intense relationships I've had as well, few if any were without setbacks. It was also rare that any relationships truly ended on the first breakup, as crushing as it may have been at the time. It's only when you had a commitment that was broken that the trust ended, but by not committing (one of the Laws of Power) you can avoid this fate as well.
We need to persevere and rise to the challenges of the women who, while showing definite signs of high interest at one point, don't simply submit to us forever and always. I'd like to hear more stories from men who overcame the women who resisted them.
"It's down to me, yes it is
The way she does just what she's told
Down to me, the change has come
She's under my thumb."
(Jagger/Richards 1964)
Questionable "rules" such as the following emerge:
* If she doesn't return a single text along the way, that means low interest.
* If she has low interest, it can never be raised.
* If her interest level was high but goes down then it's over.
* If she has a boyfriend then it's over.
* If she ever chooses another man then it's over.
In other words, she should never say no and she should never resist you, or she's the wrong girl for you.
However, in the Art of Seduction it notes that a good target will ALWAYS resist you. Likewise, Louis/Copeland state that a successful seducer does not get upset when she says no - it's an inevitable part of every seduction. Looking back at the most intense relationships I've had as well, few if any were without setbacks. It was also rare that any relationships truly ended on the first breakup, as crushing as it may have been at the time. It's only when you had a commitment that was broken that the trust ended, but by not committing (one of the Laws of Power) you can avoid this fate as well.
We need to persevere and rise to the challenges of the women who, while showing definite signs of high interest at one point, don't simply submit to us forever and always. I'd like to hear more stories from men who overcame the women who resisted them.
"It's down to me, yes it is
The way she does just what she's told
Down to me, the change has come
She's under my thumb."
(Jagger/Richards 1964)