"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The Myth of Monogamy (book)

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Just a heads up for anyone who's into some mind-opening reading, check out this book:

The Myth of Monogamy

by David Barash / Judith Lipton


I'm about halfway through it myself, great read. It puts into scientific terms what we know about male/female sexual behavior.

It's a fairly easy read unlike drier books like the The Selfish Gene and looks at a lot of recent discoveries of (in)fidelity among animals and people - essentially how all behavior is driven by evolutionary/propagation reasons.

I'm going to be doing a book review once I finish, but it's definitely a great read for those who are already game-aware. Kind of like a 2nd year course.

For beginners I still recommend DJ Bible, "The Game", 48 Laws of Power, The Art of Seduction as starter/baseline material.

Anyone else read it?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Dear Muscles,
Seems a great combination,a Zoologist with an additional degree in Phsychology and a Psychiatrist....Sounds like a good read,I shall have a look at it when my Library gets it....From the reviews,doesn't it really just validate so much of the Don Juan Philosophy?...This is an interesting quote though: "...as far as evidence from animal behavior goes, the DNA fingerprinting technology used in courtrooms is now being used by biologists to trace parenthood in animals — resulting in some startling discoveries. Even among species previously believed to be monogamous, cheating on mates is the rule for both sexes. For example, in birds which were assumed to be monogamous, researchers have found that between 10% and 40% of all chicks were fathered by males who were not the mother’s social mate"......Love to hear what the married guys think of this!
 

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I'll comment more on it as I read the whole thing, but yes it's interesting. The hunches we all have about how people actually function (more animal than 'human') are being verified by science thanks to DNA testing. A lot of research is across various species of animals, understandably, but as time goes on there will be more and more 'dark & dirty' tests done on people. I can't wait.
 
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