"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The myth of mental illness!!

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Basically if you do what you have done you will get what you've always if we start treating mental disease differently instead of prescribing pills whenever we can it will make a huge difference in society!
 

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Without context, the title of the book (the subject of this thread), could understandably be upsetting.

I learned recently that I have the lessor version of bipolar disorder and I’m comfortable in that truth and I am learning more about it and myself daily as a result of it. However, almost ironically I’ll say, in having learned this about myself, I took the time to objectively investigate this author at a Wikipedia level and in doing so, came to actually appreciate the positions laid out in the work and respect the cultural and periodic voice of the author when he wrote the book (1960’s, Hungarian born).

The author is a libertarian medical doctor (psychiatrist). In a very summarized way, he postulates that psychological labels are a method of controlling and stigmatizing those with neurological or psychological abnormalities. We are learning more now than ever about how various abnormalities exist in the physical sense, meaning neurological or mental or hormonal differences from the mean population, and as such new information in which to treat and supplement them, which is information that simply was not at the author’s disposal at the time of writing. It’s worth a read and puts a lot of perspective into being this way and how those treating these conditions can approach them.

Thanks, Eli.
 

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Basically if you do what you have done you will get what you've always if we start treating mental disease differently instead of prescribing pills whenever we can it will make a huge difference in society!
For the longest time, we didn’t know any better. Psychedelics are making such a huge impact in certain populations because they so closely mimic serotonin and attach to and influence various neurological receptors to re-wire neural pathways (neuroplasticity). This allows permanent adjustments in both conscious and subconscious functions resulting in massively improved, statistically significant results. Mental health is going to improve exponentially in the next generation.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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