"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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INDIFFERENCE...

Women hate this. This is what makes you instantly more attractive. All women are attention seekers. They spend their whole life seeking attention and validation. When they were young they would look to their fathers, now they look to any man. They spend most of their time making themselves look beautiful, make up, clothes etc. Why? Because they want to get YOUR attention. They also want to be at the TOP of their food chain when it comes to other women. Women are inherently jealous. They want to be the best looking and they want ALL a man's attention. DONT GIVE IT TO THEM.

Once you do you will be OWNED and it will turn any Master DJ to an AFC. I'm not saying ignore them completely but don't fawn over them. Thats what most AFC's do.

If you are indifferent then they will get thinking...why is this guy different? Whats wrong with me? Their subconscious will kick in and they will associated with a higher value level. They will think you are really a DJ and have many potential mates, thats why you are playing it cool. Imagine if you could date all and any of the Victoria Secret's models. Would you care if some average chick blows you out? You wouldnt give a fvck.

At the end of the day, women are the same, they are all cvnts. You may think Im harsh but I seen a lot of sh!t go down and except my mother, all of them are bivtches especially now since society has empowered them a lot more than 30 years ago.

Dont give them an inch or they will take a mile!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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You don't seek attention? You did not seek attention of your mother when you were young? The boy needs her mother much more than the girl needs her father.

What you are doing here is completely attention seeking. You are doing all sort pretending and acting and aiming to be successful just to get attention. What are you doing? Dont Be a hypocrisy. You are always aiming to be successful, just to get attention. Otherwise why be successful. You can go to the mountain, live alone. Don't seek validation, attention - that is your teaching.

If you are successful you will get very muh attention of everyone. So what is the goal of gettin success again?
 
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This may be true, but if the man in question is ugly, you think girls are gonna care if he's indifferent? No, they wouldn't want to talk with him anyway. Pre-rejection. The man has to have something attractive about him or some sort of value for this to work.

If an ugly guy and hot guy go for the same girl and act aloof/ indifferent, the girl is gonna wonder why that guy is so hot, but he's not paying me any attention. Let me go after him.

Also, a man's actions and words are, at the end of the day, putting his bid in for a girl who likely has lots of options already. She still has to choose him, and women do the choosing.

Case closed.
 
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Exactly Judge.

If you're not attractive to her for whatever reason, she's generally* going to ignore you anyway. She's not going to lose sleep over you ignoring her.

*The only time it might affect a female that isn't attracted to you would be if you have been her orbiter/text buddy/gay friend/emotional tampon for a while and you suddenly go no contact. She's still not going to b@ng you, but she might feel some withdrawal when her girly man's attention disappears. She now has to find someone else to talk about her cramps with and vent about her bad boy ex that she's F-ing.

Summary:

Attractive guy -- Ignoring is powerful

Unattractive orbiter guy -- Ignoring has some limited effect, but not really going to get you anywhere

Unattractive non-orbiter guy -- Ignoring has no effect. You're invisible anyway.
 
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Paradox: You have to "have" her in the first place for indifference or a level of aloofness to be effective...and it is.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If she digs you and wants to ride your cὀck like a pogo stick, then yeah, it might work.
If she thinks you're about as attractive as runny dog ṣhit in the rain, then it is worthless.
 
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so it really is all about looks then after all? ...close the site down, the secret has been unearthed
 
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Mike32ct said:
Exactly Judge.

If you're not attractive to her for whatever reason, she's generally* going to ignore you anyway. She's not going to lose sleep over you ignoring her.

*The only time it might affect a female that isn't attracted to you would be if you have been her orbiter/text buddy/gay friend/emotional tampon for a while and you suddenly go no contact. She's still not going to b@ng you, but she might feel some withdrawal when her girly man's attention disappears. She now has to find someone else to talk about her cramps with and vent about her bad boy ex that she's F-ing.

Summary:

Attractive guy -- Ignoring is powerful

Unattractive orbiter guy -- Ignoring has some limited effect, but not really going to get you anywhere

Unattractive non-orbiter guy -- Ignoring has no effect. You're invisible anyway.
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Funny how all of our cute little rules (aloof, indifference, act like you don't give a crap, etc. ) have that minor detail in the fine print that the girl in question have a pre-existing attraction for you for any of it to work, :crackup: . If she's not attracted to you, AT BEST, she'll just be wondering why you're not after and that will be it. It wouldn't suddenly make any 'gina tingle.
 
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betheman said:
so it really is all about looks then after all? ...close the site down, the secret has been unearthed
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Not looks, her interest level. Although looks are a factor, they aren't the only one.
 
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nismo-4 said:
This may be true, but if the man in question is ugly, you think girls are gonna care if he's indifferent? No, they wouldn't want to talk with him anyway. Pre-rejection. The man has to have something attractive about him or some sort of value for this to work.

If an ugly guy and hot guy go for the same girl and act aloof/ indifferent, the girl is gonna wonder why that guy is so hot, but he's not paying me any attention. Let me go after him.

Also, a man's actions and words are, at the end of the day, putting his bid in for a girl who likely has lots of options already. She still has to choose him, and women do the choosing.

Case closed.
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I don't think it is black or white, not caring to a woman mean you are higher value than her , so that will make her feel the need to chase you because you drew a frame that you are higher value than her .
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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nismo-4 said:
If an ugly guy and hot guy go for the same girl and act aloof/ indifferent, the girl is gonna wonder why that guy is so hot, but he's not paying me any attention. Let me go after him.
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this is true.

i thought what i would do if i had the same situation. turns out i would wonder why the ugly girl doesn't like me because i know i can get her and i wouldn't bother wit the hot girls because i know she doesn't like me.

funny when things are reversed.
 
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