"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The Most Painful Scene in the Dating Game

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Awww, poor Jake. He seems like such a sweet guy.
 

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Atleast he had the guts to go for the kiss... that says something, I guess. Lots on this board would get scared to make the move in the first place.
 

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LOL

the expressions are very entertaining.

Atleast he had the guts to go for the kiss... that says something, I guess. Lots on this board would get scared to make the move in the first place.
That just made this post even funnier....so true.

Yet that is not a bad thing... we are all on different levels and are all here to improve our game - whatever that may be.

As I have said in other posts though, if you are AFC, please dont pretend that you are not; bringing yourself undone with missinformed posts giving advice.

That is my pet-peeve on this site, apart from that - all AFC's welcome and much love.
:D
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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He looks like a sissy, he acted like a sissy. And he doesn't look like her type.

Yikes, the early 90s big hair thang sucks!
 

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Originally posted by neobrood
... so how do u escape friendship zone?
Easy. Forget about the girl and move on to other girls.


Jake did have some balls. But something tells me that he made his move way too late. You should make your interest known from the get-go.
 

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He also made the mistake of listening to her problems, comforting her and letting himself be perceived as a nice guy/friend material. His timing was also dreadful. Never hit on a woman when she's in a low state - in fact, get out of sight altogether!

It sounds like this girl is dating Dylan (http://www.geocities.com/Colosseum/Loge/7725/dylan.html), so this kid has no chance!!!

Also Jake should have picked up on the signals, or lack thereof, beforehand. His compliment also sucks. Telling her lots of people think she's great, he's just opened up the competition for himself.

And NEVER EVER take the advice of a prepubescent alcoholic
(http://www.geocities.com/Colosseum/Loge/7725/matt.html) :)

But kudos on the eye contact, kino and having the balls to go for it. And if he's making his mistakes so early in life, I bet he'll be a top DJ when he's older.

Great find by the way!
 

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Now you mention it this guy looks kind of Korean....jakethasnake is Korean too! :D
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Okay, you guys realize that those photos are not of the actual event, right? There's not way a guy like jake would do that kind of thing if there was some guy ten paces off snapping pictures of the whole thing. This was acted out. It may have actually happened, but the pictures are of people imitating or acting out a storyline.
 

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Originally posted by Nameless
His name is Jake?......jakethesnake?

:D :p

Bahahahahaha.... That *REALLY* had me laughing out loud - no joke! :D :p
 
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