bowlofsyrup
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may not just be feared by us; long-distance.
I'm in this situation where I became best friends with this girl this year in university. I spent everyday with her, and we always had a good time. I was in 3 relationships this year which didn't include her. We actually stopped talking for several months because she was upset (I had no idea) and she was too pained to see me hooking up with other girls. She tried dating a guy but it was a disaster because she wasn't as interested him. I was currently seeing someone, but one day we're partying and we hooked up, no big deal. As time went on, however, I began to feel really attached to her. I was the first guy ever in her life where she wanted a relationship with. That would explain why my friends told me she cried all through this year...and I was completely oblivious. "He's all I've ever wanted" and "he's what I've always been looking for".
School ended and we spent the 3 weeks in our apartments together. It was the hardest thing for both of us, to watch each other go our separate ways. Now, I know I played my cards right in attracting her and whatnot, so I must ask. Am I at the point of the relationship where I start giving my all? Like, buying something here and there, giving her more attention than I would have in the attraction phase? Whenever I talk to her now, she gets really upset that we're apart.
SO: I'm not sure where I should play my cards now, if I should still be that don juan or actually be that caring boyfriend. I really want this to last. Advice is appreciated. Thanks all.
Edit: sorry about that, last time I had some trouble keeping within the boundaries
I'm in this situation where I became best friends with this girl this year in university. I spent everyday with her, and we always had a good time. I was in 3 relationships this year which didn't include her. We actually stopped talking for several months because she was upset (I had no idea) and she was too pained to see me hooking up with other girls. She tried dating a guy but it was a disaster because she wasn't as interested him. I was currently seeing someone, but one day we're partying and we hooked up, no big deal. As time went on, however, I began to feel really attached to her. I was the first guy ever in her life where she wanted a relationship with. That would explain why my friends told me she cried all through this year...and I was completely oblivious. "He's all I've ever wanted" and "he's what I've always been looking for".
School ended and we spent the 3 weeks in our apartments together. It was the hardest thing for both of us, to watch each other go our separate ways. Now, I know I played my cards right in attracting her and whatnot, so I must ask. Am I at the point of the relationship where I start giving my all? Like, buying something here and there, giving her more attention than I would have in the attraction phase? Whenever I talk to her now, she gets really upset that we're apart.
SO: I'm not sure where I should play my cards now, if I should still be that don juan or actually be that caring boyfriend. I really want this to last. Advice is appreciated. Thanks all.
Edit: sorry about that, last time I had some trouble keeping within the boundaries
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