taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
One of the most important things when increasing your skills with women is frame control. This is incredibly powerful for two reasons.
One is that folks that are operating from strong frames are much more attractive.
Two is that when you've got a solid frame, you'll be immune to rejection and tests.
On the one extreme, when you've got a frame that's about as strong as a Dixie cup that's been left out in the rain all season, you'll easily get sucked into other people's frames.
Anything you say will be seen a sign of appeasement, supplication, and basically begging for attention.
On the other extreme, with an ultra-strong and unbreakable frame, no matter what anybody says, it will feel, on an emotional level, like you're watching TV or a movie or something. Unless they touch you physically, it's like playing a video game.
Now, don't get me wrong. Don't go out there, become a psycho, and see people as objects to be manipulated. You can enjoy friendships, lovers and relationships, but you don't need to get sucked into their frames.
Think of it like talking to a five year old kid. You want them to put their shoes on. Sure, they may fuss and say a bunch or random stuff, but it's not likely going to upset your intention, which is to get them in their shoes.
Imagine how much success you'd have with women if you're intention to get into her pants was just as strong and unbreakable as the frame of a parent getting their kids to put their shoes on?
One way to practice this is to practice "enjoying" girls, regardless of their responses.
Go somewhere, Starbucks or a bookstore, or whatever, to do this. Anywhere there's a place to sit for an hour or so, and plenty of girls to watch.
Then simply pretend you are at the zoo. I know, this sounds horribly un PC, but it works.
You're not trying to get numbers, you're not trying to get names. You don't even care how people respond do you.
Just sit there, and practice, you're "I'm enjoying their behavior" frame.
If you see a cute girl, look at her. Enjoy looking at her. Pretend you're at the zoo watching the monkeys.
Some monkeys will be cute and interact with you. Some monkeys will growl at you and show you there teeth. Some monkeys will even throw poo at you.
But they're monkeys. They're fun to watch, regardless of how they respond.
Try this out with girls. Remember, this exercise is only for practice, and should not be your default frame when you actually want to interact with girls. When you hit the clubs, don't bring a bunch of bananas.
Just do this whenever you get a chance. When you're pretty sure you're not in a position to approach, just watch her, and enjoy her.
If she looks at you and growls, so what? Smile at her anyway. If she looks at you and smiles, smile back. If she throws her poo at you, duck.
Relax, enjoy the girls, and enjoy yourself.
One is that folks that are operating from strong frames are much more attractive.
Two is that when you've got a solid frame, you'll be immune to rejection and tests.
On the one extreme, when you've got a frame that's about as strong as a Dixie cup that's been left out in the rain all season, you'll easily get sucked into other people's frames.
Anything you say will be seen a sign of appeasement, supplication, and basically begging for attention.
On the other extreme, with an ultra-strong and unbreakable frame, no matter what anybody says, it will feel, on an emotional level, like you're watching TV or a movie or something. Unless they touch you physically, it's like playing a video game.
Now, don't get me wrong. Don't go out there, become a psycho, and see people as objects to be manipulated. You can enjoy friendships, lovers and relationships, but you don't need to get sucked into their frames.
Think of it like talking to a five year old kid. You want them to put their shoes on. Sure, they may fuss and say a bunch or random stuff, but it's not likely going to upset your intention, which is to get them in their shoes.
Imagine how much success you'd have with women if you're intention to get into her pants was just as strong and unbreakable as the frame of a parent getting their kids to put their shoes on?
One way to practice this is to practice "enjoying" girls, regardless of their responses.
Go somewhere, Starbucks or a bookstore, or whatever, to do this. Anywhere there's a place to sit for an hour or so, and plenty of girls to watch.
Then simply pretend you are at the zoo. I know, this sounds horribly un PC, but it works.
You're not trying to get numbers, you're not trying to get names. You don't even care how people respond do you.
Just sit there, and practice, you're "I'm enjoying their behavior" frame.
If you see a cute girl, look at her. Enjoy looking at her. Pretend you're at the zoo watching the monkeys.
Some monkeys will be cute and interact with you. Some monkeys will growl at you and show you there teeth. Some monkeys will even throw poo at you.
But they're monkeys. They're fun to watch, regardless of how they respond.
Try this out with girls. Remember, this exercise is only for practice, and should not be your default frame when you actually want to interact with girls. When you hit the clubs, don't bring a bunch of bananas.
Just do this whenever you get a chance. When you're pretty sure you're not in a position to approach, just watch her, and enjoy her.
If she looks at you and growls, so what? Smile at her anyway. If she looks at you and smiles, smile back. If she throws her poo at you, duck.
Relax, enjoy the girls, and enjoy yourself.