"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The Modern Day Secret Rejection

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In the old days, a girl only gave out her number to guys that she liked.

Nowadays, everyone is so interconnected and there are so many ways to communicate that it's almost impossible for her NOT to have given you her contact info.

For this reason, WATCH OUT when she says "I would prefer that we communicate by telephone". Or FB. Or email.

Often, this insidious rejection is worded so politely that you actually contact her with the suggested medium immediately, but it wasn't an invitation. You'll realize that when she doesn't answer her phone one minute after texting that you "should phone her". "Call me" meant "Don't text me (or call me)".

She "prefers phone calls" because they are easier to screen.

This phenomenon is most likely based on the fact that every time she gets a text she gets her hopes up that it's from that d*uche bag (with tattoos on the back of his neck) who picked her up (the night they met, while wearing spandex shorts) and f*cked her (without a condom) two Saturdays ago. She wants to restrict people like you from entering her priority queue which is reserved primarily for guys who will never in fact text her again.

So when this happens, unless she initiates contact with the other medium, never contact her again.

Have you experienced this form of rejection?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Yeah so instead of texting I'll try to leave voicemails, the problem is their voicemail usually cuts off after about 10 seconds so I need to keep calling back to continue my message. So far this has not worked.
 

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Yewki said:
Yeah so instead of texting I'll try to leave voicemails, the problem is their voicemail usually cuts off after about 10 seconds so I need to keep calling back to continue my message. So far this has not worked.
Hi, uh, nikki, this is mike. I uh, met you at the um dresdan tonight. i just called to say that um i um had a great time, and um you should call me tomorrow.
 

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Yewki said:
Yeah so instead of texting I'll try to leave voicemails, the problem is their voicemail usually cuts off after about 10 seconds so I need to keep calling back to continue my message. So far this has not worked.
kinda need to ask you do know anyone who checks voice mails?, I don't chek then and sure no one I know do that too.
 
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